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*NEW* - Shop the La Lesso Collection at Boutiquemix.com - Savor African Fashion at its Best!
Straight off the runways from Capetown Fashion Week 2009 and the fashionable streets of London - Rock the stunning "ethnik chik" La Lesso dresses to your next soiree.
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Designers Olivia Kennaway and Alice Heusser started their La Lesso Collection in 2004 while attending design school in Cape Town, South Africa. Their vision comes from Olivia's home country of Kenya - drawing from the capitivatingly beautiful "khanga" or "lesso" of the intrinsic patterns and vibrant colors. Olivia and Alice continuously strive to transform the beautiful pieces of East African Heritage into stylish, fun and timelessly-trendy designs.
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All the La Lesso stunners are manufactured in Kenya at La Lesso's new SOKO plant. SOKO is a fabulous project that provides sustainable and creative long-term solutions to Kenya's economic crisis by promoting community-driven, ethical and evironmentally aware fashion trade. 70% of all La Lesso profits are used to support community projects targeting local beneificiaries such as the Ukunda Children's Orphanage.
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Designers Olivia Kennaway and Alice Heusser started their La Lesso Collection in 2004 while attending design school in Cape Town, South Africa. Their vision comes from Olivia's home country of Kenya - drawing from the capitivatingly beautiful "khanga" or "lesso" of the intrinsic patterns and vibrant colors. Olivia and Alice continuously strive to transform the beautiful pieces of East African Heritage into stylish, fun and timelessly-trendy designs.
Shop La Lesso Dresses at Boutiquemix.com
All the La Lesso stunners are manufactured in Kenya at La Lesso's new SOKO plant. SOKO is a fabulous project that provides sustainable and creative long-term solutions to Kenya's economic crisis by promoting community-driven, ethical and evironmentally aware fashion trade. 70% of all La Lesso profits are used to support community projects targeting local beneificiaries such as the Ukunda Children's Orphanage.
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Friday, June 12, 2009
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Packing has never looked so fabulous!! Who said going green has to be boring?
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Gypsystyle bags are a stunning collection of fashionably eco-stylish bags made from 100% recycled plastics (recycled into durable nylon-like fabric). These bags come in a variety of styles colors - Choose your Sleepover in Tuscany, Capri ---- or can't make up your mind? Get Both!
Philadelphia Designer and former celibrity stylist, Noel Cianci took a break from styling celebrities such as Sting, Diana Ross and Scarlett Johansson to create Gypsystyle. After traveling to India and seeing people reuse discarded items - turning plastics and flip-flops into new reusable items - Noel created Gypsystyle. No more landfill clogs - One man's trash is your stylish bag!!!
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Saturday, June 6, 2009
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For those of you who are new to DC, DEKKA is DC's own fashion haven. Home to over 30 local DC jewelry, accessories, clothing, handbags and shoe designers, DEKKA is your only one-stop fashion shopping locale in the entire district.
This saturday June 6th, stop by DEKKA from 10 am to 10 pm.
This saturday, DEKKA celebrates it's usual first saturday's with a summer blowout shopping event all day. Stop by for great music, great sales, summer steals and amazing discounts.
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Tuesday, June 2, 2009
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Nothing screams fabulous and zen summer style like Sir Alistair Rai's collection. Add these bright and sexy pieces to your summer wardrobe for a superior diva style!!
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Mohandas K. Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Hindu deities, and timeless messages of peace and passive resistance are the inspiration behind Sir Alistair Rai. Kiran Rai's Indian heritage, love for rock-n-roll and fashion have merged to create a fashion line that promotes global awareness. From the wisdom and beauty of the Raja line, featuring one of a kind art work and Swarovski detail, to the wit and social commentary of our Junglee line, there's certain to be a piece for every day.
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Mohandas K. Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Hindu deities, and timeless messages of peace and passive resistance are the inspiration behind Sir Alistair Rai. Kiran Rai's Indian heritage, love for rock-n-roll and fashion have merged to create a fashion line that promotes global awareness. From the wisdom and beauty of the Raja line, featuring one of a kind art work and Swarovski detail, to the wit and social commentary of our Junglee line, there's certain to be a piece for every day.
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Shop the Sir Alistair 2009 collection at Boutiquemix.com
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Shop the Boutiquemix.com Mother's Day Sale
Hello there fashionistas!!!
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Take advantage of the Boutiquemix.com Mother's Day Sale
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Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Eco-friendly fashion for Earth Day 2009
Tommorrow, April 22, 2009 is Earth Day 2009. Celebrate with eco-fabulous fashion choices........READ MORE.
Saturday, March 7, 2009
Spring fashion trends for every Recessionista
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Michelle Obama effortlessly merges runway style into real life style
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Thursday, February 5, 2009
Valentine's Day Gift Ideas in Washington, DC
Fashion, Art and Music. DC's hottest shopping spot is defnitely........read more Thursday, January 29, 2009
Shecky's Girls Night Out is Coming to Washington DC
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Wednesday, January 21, 2009
First Lady Michelle Obama rocks the Inaugural Balls in a white Jason Wu gown
First Lady Michelle O. chose a floor-length, stunning Jason Wu white gown to dance the night away. Michelle O's gown will plunge 26 year-old Taiwan-born Wu deeper into the fashion mainstream. As with her Inauguration choice read more.....
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Michelle Obama's Inaugural Ball Gown - Countdown to the Big Reveal
As we countdown to our new first lady's inaugural gown, let's take a look at our previous posts on Michelle's fabulous style...
Michelle's Gown is finally revealed - Ok, so the cat's out of the bag. Michelle's stylist called earlier to let me know Michelle will....read more.
Michelle Obama's style will impact fashion in the district - It is no secret that every fashion-lover is wondering what Michelle Obama will be wear for the Inaugural ball. In Washington, DC, the fashion question is "what effect will Michelle Obama have on the historically conservative DC style?" Michelle O definitely hit her fashion stride during read more.
Michelle Obama is the new face of American fashion - There is Michellefashionmania everywhere - from newspapers to magazines to television news - its remarkable. Michelle O has clearly turned herself into a fashion force to be reckoned with. Not the type of high-price couture that the average working woman cannot afford, but reasonably Read More.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Michelle Obama's Inaugural Gown finally revealed........
Ok, so the cat's out of the bag. Michelle's stylist called earlier to let me know Michelle will....read more.
Monday, January 12, 2009
Fashion trends for 2009 - Color me green
This season, color your wardrobe green and make your friends green with envy. Green, in its varying forms.....read more
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Saturday, January 10, 2009
Michelle Obama is the new face of American Fashion
There is Michellefashionmania everywhere - from newspapers to magazines to television news - its remarkable. Michelle O has clearly turned herself into a fashion force to be reckoned with. Not the type of high-price couture that the average working woman cannot afford, but reasonably Read More.
DC Fashion Week is Baaaack!!!
Lights, camera, sass, models, designers, creativity, fabulosity and all things fashion. DC fashion week rolls out the red carpet on February 15, 2009 for a week-long fashion extravaganza. Read More
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A Tribute to President and First Lady Obama at Boutiquemix.com - Yes We Can!!!
Own a fabulous part of history. This uniquely stunning and handcrafted leather purse is made from a collage of news headlines following President Obama's historic victory. Because this purse is handmade, no two are alike.
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Sunday, December 28, 2008
New Year's Eve Fashion - LaRok Navajo Chain Dress
Tis the season to be fashionable and sassy. This LaRok Navajo Chain Dress as seen on Audrina Patridge is HAWT!!!! It has been flying off the shelf.....I guess fashionistas know a good thing when they see it.
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Larok Navajo Chain Dress in Black as seen on Audrina Patridge - Halter v neck dress with fringed detail at neckline. Great for a night of dancing.
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Saturday, December 27, 2008
Boutique Mix Fashion 2009 Sweepstakes - Win a $100 Shopping Spree at BoutiqueMix.Com
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Each time you spend $40 or more at BoutiqueMix.Com, you will qualify for our 2009 Summer Sweepstakes. It's snowing outside, but we have warm thoughts!!!! Shop away and win yourself a fabulous $100 shopping spree at BoutiqueMix.Com. One qualified winner will be chosen at random on May 16, 2009!!!
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Friday, May 16, 2008
Passport to Africa - No Visa Required, No Plane Ticket Required!!
Do you want to travel to Africa this summer, but can't afford the plane ticket? Well, here's your passport........... No visa required.
Join MiMi, Boutique Mix and other fabulous African Designers and Vendors for the May 20th Fashion Trunk Show portion of the Passport to Africa Event in Washington DC.
Passport to Africa is an annual week-long celebration of African culture and people. It is designed to highlight Africa's many cultures through creative and unique events. Passport to Africa is produced by IDOA Entertainment (I Dream Of Africa Entertainment). Click here to learn more about this fab Africana event!!!
Join MiMi, Boutique Mix and other fabulous African Designers and Vendors for the May 20th Fashion Trunk Show portion of the Passport to Africa Event in Washington DC.
Passport to Africa is an annual week-long celebration of African culture and people. It is designed to highlight Africa's many cultures through creative and unique events. Passport to Africa is produced by IDOA Entertainment (I Dream Of Africa Entertainment). Click here to learn more about this fab Africana event!!!
Saturday, May 3, 2008
Congratulations to the Winner of the Boutique Mix Grand Opening Sweepstakes
Congratulations to Mar, winner of the Boutique Mix Grand Opening Sweepstakes. I hope you enjoy your stunning hand-painted bangle. Please send your mailing address to boutique-mix@hotmail.com. Stay tuned for the next contest coming up SOON!!!!
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Sunday, April 27, 2008
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Thursday, April 24, 2008
Star Jones Divorce!!! Another Charade is over
Star Jones has reportedly filed for divorce from husband of three-and-a-half years Al Reynolds.
The filing took place on March 26 in New York Supreme Court in Manhattan. Starlet M. Jones versus Al S. Reynolds was marked as an “Uncontested Matrimonial” case by the court and the records were sealed.
Says Star in a just-released statement: “Several years ago I made an error in judgment by inviting the media into the most intimate area of my life. A month ago I filed for divorce. The dissolution of a marriage is a difficult time in anyone’s life that requires privacy with one’s thoughts. I have committed myself to handling this situation with dignity and grace and look forward to emerging from this period as a stronger and wiser woman.”
Monday, April 21, 2008
5 Signs She Wants to Date You By Alan Goldsher
Excerpted from msn.com. Does she want to date you? By Alan Goldsher
Guys can be kinda dumb.
I’m not talking kinda dumb in a low-IQ kind of way—remember Ken “Mr. Jeopardy” Jennings? Last time we checked, he was a guy—and clearly not unintelligent. But in terms of figuring out how to comprehend a woman’s feelings about us when we’re trying to make the leap from “friends” to “friends who kiss,” forget about it. This is especially true for guys who’ve been burned in the past (and who hasn’t been?) who are wary about rejection. Maybe we’re not totally illiterate, but we often have a difficult time reading signals. So here, a few signs she’s interested—consider them your green light to get closer.
The “let’s laugh” signal
Distinctly not-dumb guy David Wygant, author of Always Talk To Strangers, is an excellent signal-reader. “If she makes you feel like a stand-up comedian, even though you’re not that funny, she wants to take it to the next level,” says Wygant. Similarly, Rosemarie of White Plains, New York, shares, “If I’m interested in a guy, I kind of tease him—I try to get a funny, bantering chat going. It shows that I’m interested in playing a bit of a cat-and-mouse game, you know? I’ll say something like, ‘I think you’re just making that up,’ or ‘Honestly now, has that line worked?’ but I say it with a big smile and eye contact so he knows I’m just joking.”
The tell-tale time sign
If you are friends with a woman and sometimes wonder if there might be more there, take heed of when she wants to hang out with you. If she wants to meet you for a quick workday lunch, chances are she doesn’t fancy you in the way you might hope. But if she asks you to meet her for a drink in the evening or to see a movie with her on a Saturday at 8 p.m., she may be casting you in more of a boyfriend role. Says Shelly of San Diego: “I work with a lot of guys and admit to getting crushes on co-workers from time to time. I’ll chat them up about new movies I want to see, and if one I’m interested in asks me out, I do what I can to make it at night on a weekend. That makes it so easy to grab a drink or food afterward and get to know each other on a more personal level.”
The body language clues
OK, so the odds of a woman reaching out to hold your hand while you’re flirting with her are slim to none. So how does she use her body to show you she’s interested? Jess from New York believes a woman’s gestures will send you the message. “Her body language will give her away—if a woman leans in toward a guy while he’s talking, mimics his body language, and maybe sneaks in a subtle touch here or there, these are pretty good signs that she’s into him. Obviously, he should get her phone number and actually call.”
And how does a guy know if a woman isn’t interested? “If she is looking around the room while he’s talking to her and crossing her arms across her chest,” says Jess, “she’s probably not that interested. Also, if she tells the guy that he would be perfect for her sister or she suddenly brings up the fact that she’s been talking to her ex-boyfriend, there’s probably not a spark there.” The guy should just move on to a woman who is worth his time or possibly take the uninterested woman up on her sister offer.
The look of “I like you”
A guy should also know what kind of eye contact is waving him in. Direct eye contact that lasts more than a couple of seconds is a sign of interest, say the experts. And if a woman looks from your eyes to your mouth, well, things are in very, very good shape. “I don’t know if it’s conscious or not, but when I like a guy, I find my gaze wanders from his eyes to his mouth,” says Moira of St. Louis. “It’s definitely a seduction move; it lets him know that I’m thinking about what it would be like to kiss him.” Gentleman, if you’re getting that signal, this is another time you want to go ahead and get that phone number.
Taking the next step
Once we men realize she “likes us, likes us,” our minds are oftentimes so blown that we have no idea how to proceed. Fortunately, Wygant does: “Once she gives you the hints, you need to close the deal. Ask her to talk to you away from her friends or call her up on the phone and say, ‘You know what? I want to take you out for a nice dinner—just the two of us.’”
What if the object of your affection is a woman you’ve known as a pal for a while? Over dinner, you have the talk, advises Wygant. “You say, ‘I’d really like to become more than friends. I’d like to start dating you. What do you think of that?’ At this point, she’s given you every single sign that this is the conversation she’s been dreaming about, and of course the answer is going to be yes.”
So it all really boils down to a two-pronged plan: Pay attention and take a chance. If you focus your energy on the woman in question rather than on yourself or your surroundings (which is what you should be doing anyway), you’ll pick up more than you ever thought you could have. And if you disregard the very obvious signs — the laughing, the touching, the eye contact — and you don’t go for it, well then, then you are kinda dumb.
Alan Goldsher’s book, Modest Mouse: A Pretty Good Read, is available now. Visit his website.
Guys can be kinda dumb.
I’m not talking kinda dumb in a low-IQ kind of way—remember Ken “Mr. Jeopardy” Jennings? Last time we checked, he was a guy—and clearly not unintelligent. But in terms of figuring out how to comprehend a woman’s feelings about us when we’re trying to make the leap from “friends” to “friends who kiss,” forget about it. This is especially true for guys who’ve been burned in the past (and who hasn’t been?) who are wary about rejection. Maybe we’re not totally illiterate, but we often have a difficult time reading signals. So here, a few signs she’s interested—consider them your green light to get closer.
The “let’s laugh” signal
Distinctly not-dumb guy David Wygant, author of Always Talk To Strangers, is an excellent signal-reader. “If she makes you feel like a stand-up comedian, even though you’re not that funny, she wants to take it to the next level,” says Wygant. Similarly, Rosemarie of White Plains, New York, shares, “If I’m interested in a guy, I kind of tease him—I try to get a funny, bantering chat going. It shows that I’m interested in playing a bit of a cat-and-mouse game, you know? I’ll say something like, ‘I think you’re just making that up,’ or ‘Honestly now, has that line worked?’ but I say it with a big smile and eye contact so he knows I’m just joking.”
The tell-tale time sign
If you are friends with a woman and sometimes wonder if there might be more there, take heed of when she wants to hang out with you. If she wants to meet you for a quick workday lunch, chances are she doesn’t fancy you in the way you might hope. But if she asks you to meet her for a drink in the evening or to see a movie with her on a Saturday at 8 p.m., she may be casting you in more of a boyfriend role. Says Shelly of San Diego: “I work with a lot of guys and admit to getting crushes on co-workers from time to time. I’ll chat them up about new movies I want to see, and if one I’m interested in asks me out, I do what I can to make it at night on a weekend. That makes it so easy to grab a drink or food afterward and get to know each other on a more personal level.”
The body language clues
OK, so the odds of a woman reaching out to hold your hand while you’re flirting with her are slim to none. So how does she use her body to show you she’s interested? Jess from New York believes a woman’s gestures will send you the message. “Her body language will give her away—if a woman leans in toward a guy while he’s talking, mimics his body language, and maybe sneaks in a subtle touch here or there, these are pretty good signs that she’s into him. Obviously, he should get her phone number and actually call.”
And how does a guy know if a woman isn’t interested? “If she is looking around the room while he’s talking to her and crossing her arms across her chest,” says Jess, “she’s probably not that interested. Also, if she tells the guy that he would be perfect for her sister or she suddenly brings up the fact that she’s been talking to her ex-boyfriend, there’s probably not a spark there.” The guy should just move on to a woman who is worth his time or possibly take the uninterested woman up on her sister offer.
The look of “I like you”
A guy should also know what kind of eye contact is waving him in. Direct eye contact that lasts more than a couple of seconds is a sign of interest, say the experts. And if a woman looks from your eyes to your mouth, well, things are in very, very good shape. “I don’t know if it’s conscious or not, but when I like a guy, I find my gaze wanders from his eyes to his mouth,” says Moira of St. Louis. “It’s definitely a seduction move; it lets him know that I’m thinking about what it would be like to kiss him.” Gentleman, if you’re getting that signal, this is another time you want to go ahead and get that phone number.
Taking the next step
Once we men realize she “likes us, likes us,” our minds are oftentimes so blown that we have no idea how to proceed. Fortunately, Wygant does: “Once she gives you the hints, you need to close the deal. Ask her to talk to you away from her friends or call her up on the phone and say, ‘You know what? I want to take you out for a nice dinner—just the two of us.’”
What if the object of your affection is a woman you’ve known as a pal for a while? Over dinner, you have the talk, advises Wygant. “You say, ‘I’d really like to become more than friends. I’d like to start dating you. What do you think of that?’ At this point, she’s given you every single sign that this is the conversation she’s been dreaming about, and of course the answer is going to be yes.”
So it all really boils down to a two-pronged plan: Pay attention and take a chance. If you focus your energy on the woman in question rather than on yourself or your surroundings (which is what you should be doing anyway), you’ll pick up more than you ever thought you could have. And if you disregard the very obvious signs — the laughing, the touching, the eye contact — and you don’t go for it, well then, then you are kinda dumb.
Alan Goldsher’s book, Modest Mouse: A Pretty Good Read, is available now. Visit his website.
Rumor Has it.........Kanye West and His Fiance (Alexis Phifer) Call it Quits
Kanye and his fiance have allegedly called off their charade, ahem, i mean, engagement.
Courtsey of BET---"Reports are circulating that Kanye West and his fiance, Alexis Phifer, have called off their engagement. Reps for Kanye have not yet confirmed the breakup, but sources say that it was Kanye who decided that things weren’t working out. Kanye and Alexis were engaged back in August of 2006, not long after the rapper’s much publicized break-up with an MTV employee, Brooke Crittendon. Maybe Kanye’s looking for the celebrity chick…"
Courtsey of BET---"Reports are circulating that Kanye West and his fiance, Alexis Phifer, have called off their engagement. Reps for Kanye have not yet confirmed the breakup, but sources say that it was Kanye who decided that things weren’t working out. Kanye and Alexis were engaged back in August of 2006, not long after the rapper’s much publicized break-up with an MTV employee, Brooke Crittendon. Maybe Kanye’s looking for the celebrity chick…"
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Sunday, April 20, 2008
Love and the Career-Driven Woman
Tangi Miller stars in and produces the movie ---- Love and othe Four Letter Words, which, "explores successful women and their challenges in finding love."
Excerpted from Charreah Jackson's interview with Tangi Miller in Essence Magazine.
Who needs a groom when you’ve got a wedding planner? There are some women who live for the day they’ll jump the broom and put more stock in the ceremony than a suitable lifetime beau. When Tangi Miller heard the story of a successful acquaintance who planned an elaborate wedding with friends and family but had no future hubby, she was inspired to produce and star in the romantic dramedy, Love and Other Four Letter Words. Essence.com caught up with the veteran actress to discuss the film and what single successful woman can do to find and maintain love.
Essence.com: Congrats on this new film, Tangi! Your character Stormy LaRue lies about her getting married to her grandmother on her death bed. But when grandma lives Stormy fakes an engagement with a hired stripper. What inspired this tall-tale?
Tangi Miller: My friend went to a wedding of a woman I knew in passing. The lady told her family and friends that she was about to get married. People bought wedding dresses, family came to town, she had bridesmaids and there was no groom. She was so together and you never would have thought things would turn out like that. It turned into a comedy in my head from that serious situation.
Essence.com: Wow that is a crazy story! She was there in her dress and everything?
T.M.: Yes girl, there in her dress and delusional with no husband. That story stayed with me and I thought, What would ever make me lie and say I was getting married? And then I thought of my grandmother whose whole thing is seeing me married before she dies.
Essence.com: This film addresses the strong independent woman who looks up to see she has the career and no personal life. What should women take from this?
T.M.: I want to begin a conversation about relationships and love. The grandmother says in the movie, At the end of your days you’re not going to wish you worked extra hours at work. If love is something you want, you definitely need to make it a priority in your life early enough so it doesn’t feel desperate or you are worried about your eggs drying up (laughs)!
Essence.com: (Laughs) Now, are you speaking from experience?
T.M.: Love is one of those things that needs to be on the priority list if you want it to manifest. In my life it wasn’t on my list. It was, ‘I want to go to this country’, ‘I want to do this’ but love was nowhere to be found. And of course, if you don’t put it out there it’s certainly not going to happen. I’ve had actresses say to me, ‘I just thought it would happen, and it never happened, and I’m 50 and I don’t want it to happen to you.’ It’s a real thing. It’s wonderful to grow with somebody and find a life partner, so there is a reason to stay.
Essence: And the life partner for Stormy turns out to be her childhood friend Reverend Arnold “Peanut” Peterson [played by Flex Alexander] from back home.
T.M.: There’s a Peanut in my life now and had I been open to the situation, prepared and appreciative of that, I would be married now. I think we run for our careers. That’s not a bad thing, but we need to be aware and say to our daughters, what there is to expect at the end of the day because you might want to walk with a Peanut. My sister married her high school sweetheart and they have three children together and grew together. It’s beautiful and rare. It’s definitely not for everyone but should be on the mind, on the radar with your dreams. I believe there is a way to have it all. You just have to plan it right.
Essence: How was it working with Flex?
T.M.: Oh my gosh, you just want to marry him for real. He is the bomb and so wonderful. He is that guy. Shanice is so lucky. We did the movie with a low budget and he never complained. He’s a beautiful spirit and a great leading man.
Essence: In the film you also include some meddlesome cousins who stir up trouble and would love to bring Stormy down a notch. How do you manage those people in your life?
T.M.: Those haters that love you but you don’t really know where to put them? (laughs) You keep them close enough not to kill you but close enough so you know what they are up to. Sometimes they happen to be family so they aren’t going anywhere anyway. The bottom line is people love you, admire you, and envy you all at the same time. It’s a very human thing to be jealous. You just pray on it and pray for that person and wish blessings on their lives.
Essence: You were in wedding dresses twice in this movie. How was that?
T.M.: I felt like I needed to get married to be quite honest. So I was going through a lot but it did make me romanticize about the day that I would do that. I hope and pray we can shine a little more value on relationships with this story. It’s obviously not easy because people aren’t staying together. As a community, we should respect when people try and make that work. Otherwise, in 50 years, what kind of families are we going to have? It’s a serious issue not just for Black people but America. We need to work on relationships.
Essence.com: Now you starred as the lead character and served as the film’s producer . How was it were multiple hats?
T.M.: I was going from ‘So what are we having for lunch?’ to trying to stay in character. Playing Stormy, who was a producer like me, I was going crazy trying to keep up with everything. But it was bananas. As we work on my next film, My Girlfriend’s Back, I am setting it up so I don’t have so many responsibilities when we shoot. People really identify with this story, a woman who is a workaholic and has to re-evaluate her love life and I love that.
Essence.com: So what else do you and Stormy have in common?
T.M.: Ironically about a year or two after beginning the story, my grandmother was on her deathbed, and I said to myself, I wonder if I told her I’m getting married if she would live. This whole story was haunting me. My grandmother passed and I felt compelled to tell this story as a tribute to her and all the old-school mothers who push us in that direction of settling down. If love is something you want make it a priority in your life.
Excerpted from Charreah Jackson's interview with Tangi Miller in Essence Magazine.
Who needs a groom when you’ve got a wedding planner? There are some women who live for the day they’ll jump the broom and put more stock in the ceremony than a suitable lifetime beau. When Tangi Miller heard the story of a successful acquaintance who planned an elaborate wedding with friends and family but had no future hubby, she was inspired to produce and star in the romantic dramedy, Love and Other Four Letter Words. Essence.com caught up with the veteran actress to discuss the film and what single successful woman can do to find and maintain love.Essence.com: Congrats on this new film, Tangi! Your character Stormy LaRue lies about her getting married to her grandmother on her death bed. But when grandma lives Stormy fakes an engagement with a hired stripper. What inspired this tall-tale?
Tangi Miller: My friend went to a wedding of a woman I knew in passing. The lady told her family and friends that she was about to get married. People bought wedding dresses, family came to town, she had bridesmaids and there was no groom. She was so together and you never would have thought things would turn out like that. It turned into a comedy in my head from that serious situation.
Essence.com: Wow that is a crazy story! She was there in her dress and everything?
T.M.: Yes girl, there in her dress and delusional with no husband. That story stayed with me and I thought, What would ever make me lie and say I was getting married? And then I thought of my grandmother whose whole thing is seeing me married before she dies.
Essence.com: This film addresses the strong independent woman who looks up to see she has the career and no personal life. What should women take from this?
T.M.: I want to begin a conversation about relationships and love. The grandmother says in the movie, At the end of your days you’re not going to wish you worked extra hours at work. If love is something you want, you definitely need to make it a priority in your life early enough so it doesn’t feel desperate or you are worried about your eggs drying up (laughs)!
Essence.com: (Laughs) Now, are you speaking from experience?
T.M.: Love is one of those things that needs to be on the priority list if you want it to manifest. In my life it wasn’t on my list. It was, ‘I want to go to this country’, ‘I want to do this’ but love was nowhere to be found. And of course, if you don’t put it out there it’s certainly not going to happen. I’ve had actresses say to me, ‘I just thought it would happen, and it never happened, and I’m 50 and I don’t want it to happen to you.’ It’s a real thing. It’s wonderful to grow with somebody and find a life partner, so there is a reason to stay.
Essence: And the life partner for Stormy turns out to be her childhood friend Reverend Arnold “Peanut” Peterson [played by Flex Alexander] from back home.
T.M.: There’s a Peanut in my life now and had I been open to the situation, prepared and appreciative of that, I would be married now. I think we run for our careers. That’s not a bad thing, but we need to be aware and say to our daughters, what there is to expect at the end of the day because you might want to walk with a Peanut. My sister married her high school sweetheart and they have three children together and grew together. It’s beautiful and rare. It’s definitely not for everyone but should be on the mind, on the radar with your dreams. I believe there is a way to have it all. You just have to plan it right.
Essence: How was it working with Flex?
T.M.: Oh my gosh, you just want to marry him for real. He is the bomb and so wonderful. He is that guy. Shanice is so lucky. We did the movie with a low budget and he never complained. He’s a beautiful spirit and a great leading man.
Essence: In the film you also include some meddlesome cousins who stir up trouble and would love to bring Stormy down a notch. How do you manage those people in your life?
T.M.: Those haters that love you but you don’t really know where to put them? (laughs) You keep them close enough not to kill you but close enough so you know what they are up to. Sometimes they happen to be family so they aren’t going anywhere anyway. The bottom line is people love you, admire you, and envy you all at the same time. It’s a very human thing to be jealous. You just pray on it and pray for that person and wish blessings on their lives.
Essence: You were in wedding dresses twice in this movie. How was that?
T.M.: I felt like I needed to get married to be quite honest. So I was going through a lot but it did make me romanticize about the day that I would do that. I hope and pray we can shine a little more value on relationships with this story. It’s obviously not easy because people aren’t staying together. As a community, we should respect when people try and make that work. Otherwise, in 50 years, what kind of families are we going to have? It’s a serious issue not just for Black people but America. We need to work on relationships.
Essence.com: Now you starred as the lead character and served as the film’s producer . How was it were multiple hats?
T.M.: I was going from ‘So what are we having for lunch?’ to trying to stay in character. Playing Stormy, who was a producer like me, I was going crazy trying to keep up with everything. But it was bananas. As we work on my next film, My Girlfriend’s Back, I am setting it up so I don’t have so many responsibilities when we shoot. People really identify with this story, a woman who is a workaholic and has to re-evaluate her love life and I love that.
Essence.com: So what else do you and Stormy have in common?
T.M.: Ironically about a year or two after beginning the story, my grandmother was on her deathbed, and I said to myself, I wonder if I told her I’m getting married if she would live. This whole story was haunting me. My grandmother passed and I felt compelled to tell this story as a tribute to her and all the old-school mothers who push us in that direction of settling down. If love is something you want make it a priority in your life.
Happy Earth Day!!! Washington DC Events
April 22 may be Earth Day around the World, but in Washington DC, festivities kick off tommorrow, April 20th. U.S. events, produced by Green Apple Festival, will include A-list musicians and actors, environmental and community leaders, and dozens of exhibits on April 20, right before Earth Day.
2008 Earth Day Network/Green Apple Festival Free Line-up -WASHINGTON DC "Earth Day 2008 on the National Mall"
Rock out with Jordin Sparks, O.A.R., The Roots & Friends, Will I Am, Gov’t Mule, Toots and the Maytals, Thievery Corporation, DJ Cerphe from 94.7 The Globe, Warren Haynes, Umphreys McGee, DC Boys Choir, CityDance Ensemble, Urban Impact - A Joy of Motion Hip Hop Youth Company, Douge E. Fresh, Talib Kweli, Ne-Yo, Chrisette Michele, Edward Norton and more.... On April 20th, walk, bike, row or take public transportation to the National Mall in Washington, DC for a day-long event for the entire family.
MiMi and Boutique Mix's Earth Day Commitment
This year, I'm doing my best to make a committed effort to doing less damage to the environment. I am ashamed to say that prior to the last two years I recycled only sporadically, didn't turn lights off and used water and other natural resources very ineffciently. I am committed to doing much better. I am also elated to say that I used a compost toilet for the first time last month while attending the Vermont Law School Environmental Solutions Conference. I was asked to speak on "The Role of the International Lawyer on the Global Environment." It was an exciting event and I have been invited back to speak at a Genocide Conference, also hosted by the Vermont Law School in October of this year.
Here's a brief summary of the Enviromental Law Conference event, exerpted from the Law School Website.
SOUTH ROYALTON, VT – More than 250 law students from 28 law schools turned out for the National Association of Environmental Law Societies’ 2008 conference, “Picking up the Pieces: Reclaiming Global Environmental Leadership,” proudly hosted this year by Vermont Law School. Highlights of the conference, which ran from March 20-22, included a keynote address delivered by U.S. Senator Bernie Sanders and a reunion dinner featuring Richard Ayres and John Adams, two of the founders of the Natural Resources Defense Council who humorously recalled their experiences launching the NRDC in the early 1970s.
The three-day conference included two dozen panels and workshops that examined today’s environmental challenges and strategies for the future. Speaking on topics such as climate change, water scarcity, habitat destruction and China’s environmental degradation, more than 60 presenters took part in the conference, which was held at the campuses of the University of Vermont and Vermont Law School.
Back to the compost toilet. That was definitely an experience. For those of you who've never heard of a compost toilet, here's a brief description - Compost toilets are toilets which use little or no water and treat toilet wastes on-site for reuse as valuable compost. They work by providing a enclosed environment for the natural process of aerobic decomposition. The same type of environment on forest floors which decomposes wildlife droppings and converts them into valuable nutrients for the vegetation to use. Advantages - They reduce water storage or supply costs, possibility of a rebate for community sewage charges, production of compost, in many systems the ability to compost vegetable peelings and garden trimmings with toilet wastes.
A correctly installed and operating composting toilet will not smell at all because there is a positive suction of air through the toilet at all times. In fact, there should be less smell than a conventional toilet. hey will only “clog up” if the systems are overloaded. In most cases, they will easily tolerate the shock loadings of larger gatherings than normal. They will compost anything organic.
As I said - very very interesting, indeed. I don't see myself getting one of these, but I will use use them in lieu of conventional toilets when I visit Vermont Law School.
Shop Boutique Mix for Eco-Friendly Style!!
Gypsy 05 Organic Maxi Long Dress - Nothing makes you feel more like a goddess than an eco-friendly, sexy, jersey organic maxi dress. This stunner passes both the casual and elegant evening look Feel like a star in this jersey organic maxi dress. This floor-length, unlined dress features a deep V-shaped neckline with twisted straps Made from organic fabrics, natural dyes, and produced in a solar-powered factory. Elastic band around the bustline of the dress. Also available in White. Click here to buy your eco-friendly maxi dress!!
Join Hayden and Kristin in saving the enviroment. This fabulous Gypsy 05 French Rose Organic Hoodie (Red) is made from bamboo-derived fabric, low impact dyes and a 90% organic printing process. Great addition to any eco-chic wardrobe. Click here to buy your hoodie!!
Going Green has never looked so fab!! Rock this “Good planets are hard to find” t-shirt with your favorite jeans or slacks. This tee is made using organic fabrics, natural dyes, and a 90% organic printing process. Look good while saving the environment!!! Also available in Dust. Click here to buy this tee for your guy!!
Red Bamboo Stunner. This large elegant “eye-catcher” is hand made from eco-friendly bamboo, jute and seagrass. It has an inside drawstring closure, cell phone pocket and an additional zippered pocket. Comes with a dust cover. Click here to buy yours!!
Sweet Mama Africa. Throw out that plastic bag and pick up one of these Africa design woven cloth bags. Dimensions: 15" X 15". Click here to buy yours!!
African Safari. Large Safari Jute Bag & Large Africa-Map Jute Bag. Fabulous large and sturdy bags hand-made and woven from jute cloth, with wood handles. Choose one or both of these fun and fashionable bags. Dimensions: 19" X 18". Safari/Map photos appear on both sides. Click here to buy your African Safari!!
Click here to learn more about Earth Day - Washington DC Events.
2008 Earth Day Network/Green Apple Festival Free Line-up -WASHINGTON DC "Earth Day 2008 on the National Mall"
Rock out with Jordin Sparks, O.A.R., The Roots & Friends, Will I Am, Gov’t Mule, Toots and the Maytals, Thievery Corporation, DJ Cerphe from 94.7 The Globe, Warren Haynes, Umphreys McGee, DC Boys Choir, CityDance Ensemble, Urban Impact - A Joy of Motion Hip Hop Youth Company, Douge E. Fresh, Talib Kweli, Ne-Yo, Chrisette Michele, Edward Norton and more.... On April 20th, walk, bike, row or take public transportation to the National Mall in Washington, DC for a day-long event for the entire family.
MiMi and Boutique Mix's Earth Day Commitment
This year, I'm doing my best to make a committed effort to doing less damage to the environment. I am ashamed to say that prior to the last two years I recycled only sporadically, didn't turn lights off and used water and other natural resources very ineffciently. I am committed to doing much better. I am also elated to say that I used a compost toilet for the first time last month while attending the Vermont Law School Environmental Solutions Conference. I was asked to speak on "The Role of the International Lawyer on the Global Environment." It was an exciting event and I have been invited back to speak at a Genocide Conference, also hosted by the Vermont Law School in October of this year.
Here's a brief summary of the Enviromental Law Conference event, exerpted from the Law School Website.
SOUTH ROYALTON, VT – More than 250 law students from 28 law schools turned out for the National Association of Environmental Law Societies’ 2008 conference, “Picking up the Pieces: Reclaiming Global Environmental Leadership,” proudly hosted this year by Vermont Law School. Highlights of the conference, which ran from March 20-22, included a keynote address delivered by U.S. Senator Bernie Sanders and a reunion dinner featuring Richard Ayres and John Adams, two of the founders of the Natural Resources Defense Council who humorously recalled their experiences launching the NRDC in the early 1970s.
The three-day conference included two dozen panels and workshops that examined today’s environmental challenges and strategies for the future. Speaking on topics such as climate change, water scarcity, habitat destruction and China’s environmental degradation, more than 60 presenters took part in the conference, which was held at the campuses of the University of Vermont and Vermont Law School.
Back to the compost toilet. That was definitely an experience. For those of you who've never heard of a compost toilet, here's a brief description - Compost toilets are toilets which use little or no water and treat toilet wastes on-site for reuse as valuable compost. They work by providing a enclosed environment for the natural process of aerobic decomposition. The same type of environment on forest floors which decomposes wildlife droppings and converts them into valuable nutrients for the vegetation to use. Advantages - They reduce water storage or supply costs, possibility of a rebate for community sewage charges, production of compost, in many systems the ability to compost vegetable peelings and garden trimmings with toilet wastes.
A correctly installed and operating composting toilet will not smell at all because there is a positive suction of air through the toilet at all times. In fact, there should be less smell than a conventional toilet. hey will only “clog up” if the systems are overloaded. In most cases, they will easily tolerate the shock loadings of larger gatherings than normal. They will compost anything organic.
As I said - very very interesting, indeed. I don't see myself getting one of these, but I will use use them in lieu of conventional toilets when I visit Vermont Law School.
Shop Boutique Mix for Eco-Friendly Style!!
Gypsy 05 Organic Maxi Long Dress - Nothing makes you feel more like a goddess than an eco-friendly, sexy, jersey organic maxi dress. This stunner passes both the casual and elegant evening look Feel like a star in this jersey organic maxi dress. This floor-length, unlined dress features a deep V-shaped neckline with twisted straps Made from organic fabrics, natural dyes, and produced in a solar-powered factory. Elastic band around the bustline of the dress. Also available in White. Click here to buy your eco-friendly maxi dress!!
Join Hayden and Kristin in saving the enviroment. This fabulous Gypsy 05 French Rose Organic Hoodie (Red) is made from bamboo-derived fabric, low impact dyes and a 90% organic printing process. Great addition to any eco-chic wardrobe. Click here to buy your hoodie!!
Going Green has never looked so fab!! Rock this “Good planets are hard to find” t-shirt with your favorite jeans or slacks. This tee is made using organic fabrics, natural dyes, and a 90% organic printing process. Look good while saving the environment!!! Also available in Dust. Click here to buy this tee for your guy!!
Red Bamboo Stunner. This large elegant “eye-catcher” is hand made from eco-friendly bamboo, jute and seagrass. It has an inside drawstring closure, cell phone pocket and an additional zippered pocket. Comes with a dust cover. Click here to buy yours!!
Sweet Mama Africa. Throw out that plastic bag and pick up one of these Africa design woven cloth bags. Dimensions: 15" X 15". Click here to buy yours!!
African Safari. Large Safari Jute Bag & Large Africa-Map Jute Bag. Fabulous large and sturdy bags hand-made and woven from jute cloth, with wood handles. Choose one or both of these fun and fashionable bags. Dimensions: 19" X 18". Safari/Map photos appear on both sides. Click here to buy your African Safari!!
Click here to learn more about Earth Day - Washington DC Events.
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Which Sex and the City Vixen are You? I"m Samantha!!! Woohoo!! Mercy Me!! Take the Test!!!
You Are Most Like Samantha! |
 For you, dating is the ultimate sport You're into guys with power, looks, or a lot of money. You rather have a great two weeks than a great forever. But even you fall victim to love from time to time. :-) Romantic prediction: You'll find love in the next few months... But you'll be the last one to realize it. |
Which Sex and the City Vixen are You? I"m Samantha!!! Woohoo!! Mercy Me!! Take the Test!!!
You Are Most Like Samantha! |
For you, dating is the ultimate sport You're into guys with power, looks, or a lot of money. You rather have a great two weeks than a great forever. But even you fall victim to love from time to time. :-) Romantic prediction: You'll find love in the next few months... But you'll be the last one to realize it. |
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Inside Your Guy's Head
Anka Radakovich takes you inside the mind of men........ Find answers to all those nagging questions you've had, but were afraid to ask!!! Aptly titled Men May Be Dogs but We Love Them Anyway, you can thank Anka later.
Men can't resist the tease.
There's no sexier surprise for your guy than when you dance seductively, slowly undress or wear lacy underwear — anything that stimulates him visually. This sexual tension drives him wild, because his mind races, imagining what's coming next. Feel shy dancing around in your bra? You should know that men don't notice your so-called flaws when you're turning them on. In this situation, your guy has a one-track mind, and it stays focused on how hot you are. So the next time you undress, take it slow. Toss your clothes at him as you go. That's all it takes to drive him nuts — in a good way.
Men can't help but stare at other women.
It's true: They just can't control themselves. We're the same way when we walk by a window filled with gorgeous shoes — we have to look. It's anthropological; if you look at the mating habits of gorillas, even if they're "pair bonded" (anthropology-speak for gorilla marriage), most males cruise the females and stare when a cute gorilla girl walks by. Your guy's not insensitive, he's just been momentarily possessed by his inner ape.
Men are big kids (and proud of it).
Deep down, all men are big ol' boys. (This explains why so many grown men wear baseball caps.) Their interests are boylike, too. Take his obsession with sports. Most men love anything that involves kicking something, throwing things, or punching other men. Sound like 10-year-olds on the playground to you? Does to me. When you put three or more men together, they bond by yelling at the TV and being idiots to each other. Regressing into childlike behavior isn't just a means of amusing themselves — it's their way of escaping real-life pressures and feeling accepted as they are. There's no point in denying guys time to release their juvenile side. Just be glad they're doing it during boys' night out and not in front of your girlfriends or family!
Men are perverts.
There's no getting around it: Guys are pervs. They think about sex 24/7. And sometimes they daydream about — and look at pictures of — gross stuff or weird moves, moves that they'd never try in a million years. Fact is, men have a higher tolerance for body fluids and outrageous sex acts than we do (it's something about that 10-year-old boy inside each of them — see above). And it's a fact that men's sexual fantasies contain more people than ours do. For the guy who has everything, I always give the gift of porn. It's the one present men never complain about (or return). But if you can't stand the thought of these films, then don't go there. Nothing is less sexy to a man than a woman who's uncomfortable. Guys may be turned on by the visuals in porn, but trust me, they'd rather have the real, in-the-flesh deal anytime.
Personally, I am pro-porn: Watching together can add zing to a long-term relationship. But the problem with most porn is that it's still mostly geared toward male fantasies. So look for titles by female directors, like Candida Royalle, who create videos with hot guys and plotlines that reflect women's fantasies. Don't worry if your man will like them, too: If they show skin, he will.
Men would love to cheat.
That doesn't mean they will, though. Luckily, they're either too guilty, too shy or too scared. Hey, it's biology: They see, they want, they fantasize. Men are not by nature monogamous animals, and they often have to fight their sexual urges, which many do very successfully. If a guy could live his perfect fantasy life, he would have a wife and a new fling whenever he felt like it. (While women look for that one "special" guy, men look for those five "special" girls.) Fifty percent of men say that if there were zero percent chance you'd find out, they'd cheat. But that also means 50 percent wouldn't — even if there were no danger of getting caught. Many men say that when they've had the idea, they nix it because they wouldn't want to mess up the good thing they've got at home. Smart guys.
Men want us to worship them.
Every man has a bit of Donald Trump in him. They want us to think they're strong, successful, and sexy. Most men would never admit this, but they'd like to think they're slightly smarter than the woman they're with. Yet they have no problem with the woman being 10 times better-looking than they are (that strokes his ego even more). Ultimately, they'd settle for just being able to do one thing better than us. I think it's because, privately, they know we're the superior sex.
Men love oral sex.
What do men want more of in bed? When I conducted a survey asking 100 men that question, 80 percent of them said, "More oral sex." Specifically, they wanted to be on the receiving end. Why do they love it so much? They don't have to worry about technique, and we do all the work (they're kinda lazy). Guys say the best treat a woman can give them is oral sex in the morning. Forget scones — this is his idea of breakfast in bed.
Men don't take hints.
When men are with other men, they don't tiptoe around each other and drop subtle suggestions. That's because hints don't register with guys. We women pride ourselves on being able to know intuitively what our friends, husbands, and kids are thinking, but men have no interest in reading minds. That's why one thing I've learned from men is, "If you don't ask, you don't get." In relationships, I don't expect a guy to know exactly what I want — and whenever I do, I'm disappointed. If, for example, you want him to take you out for your birthday, you're wasting your time dropping hints like "Guess what day Friday is? It's someone's birthday!" If you do that, you'll be 80 before he takes you out. And while you're at it, don't hint about wanting a gift that's shiny and lasts forever: To him, you've just described a set of Emeril pots and pans.
Men love their penises.
Man's best friend is actually his penis. And he assumes it's our best friend, too. After all, like a dog, it's always happy to see us, enjoys being petted, and often rubs itself against our legs. And have you noticed that guys are so intimate with their members that they often create pet names for them, including Mr. Friendly, Bob's Big Boy, and the ever-so-subtle Thruster?
While women have internal, squishy accommodations, men are equipped with external, throbbing reminders of the biological imperative to "spread the seed." Every time they look down at their tools standing at attention, they remember that their penises are there for a reason — to conquer the planet. That's why they've built so many monuments in the penis's likeness. The phallus is represented by erected symbols of power worldwide, from the Eiffel Tower to the Empire State Building.
Women don't make a big deal about what we have going on downstairs because we're too busy worrying about the size and shape of our other body parts. But men are obsessed with size. I live near a cactus store, and every time I walk by with a guy, he points to the biggest cactus in the window and says, "There's my size!" Do I believe them? No, because when men pull out the ruler — and they do — they almost always round up. If you ask a dozen men what the average length of an erect penis is, they'll say eight inches. But if you ask a dozen women, they'll say it's four inches. Bottom line: No matter how small it is, tell him it's huge. If it's too big, tell him just that. Trust me — he'll take it as a compliment.
Men don't get Valentine's Day.
Most guys consider February 14 a "chick holiday." And it stresses them out: They don't know what's expected, what they should buy, and how much (or how little) they should express their feelings. They're not incapable of romance, they just hate being romantic on cue. Just tell him, "V-Day is Friday. Let's go out for dinner." If you remind him when it is and let him off the hook for some of the standard requirements, he's more likely to deliver some creative romance of his own.
Men can't resist the tease.
There's no sexier surprise for your guy than when you dance seductively, slowly undress or wear lacy underwear — anything that stimulates him visually. This sexual tension drives him wild, because his mind races, imagining what's coming next. Feel shy dancing around in your bra? You should know that men don't notice your so-called flaws when you're turning them on. In this situation, your guy has a one-track mind, and it stays focused on how hot you are. So the next time you undress, take it slow. Toss your clothes at him as you go. That's all it takes to drive him nuts — in a good way.
Men can't help but stare at other women.
It's true: They just can't control themselves. We're the same way when we walk by a window filled with gorgeous shoes — we have to look. It's anthropological; if you look at the mating habits of gorillas, even if they're "pair bonded" (anthropology-speak for gorilla marriage), most males cruise the females and stare when a cute gorilla girl walks by. Your guy's not insensitive, he's just been momentarily possessed by his inner ape.
Men are big kids (and proud of it).
Deep down, all men are big ol' boys. (This explains why so many grown men wear baseball caps.) Their interests are boylike, too. Take his obsession with sports. Most men love anything that involves kicking something, throwing things, or punching other men. Sound like 10-year-olds on the playground to you? Does to me. When you put three or more men together, they bond by yelling at the TV and being idiots to each other. Regressing into childlike behavior isn't just a means of amusing themselves — it's their way of escaping real-life pressures and feeling accepted as they are. There's no point in denying guys time to release their juvenile side. Just be glad they're doing it during boys' night out and not in front of your girlfriends or family!
Men are perverts.
There's no getting around it: Guys are pervs. They think about sex 24/7. And sometimes they daydream about — and look at pictures of — gross stuff or weird moves, moves that they'd never try in a million years. Fact is, men have a higher tolerance for body fluids and outrageous sex acts than we do (it's something about that 10-year-old boy inside each of them — see above). And it's a fact that men's sexual fantasies contain more people than ours do. For the guy who has everything, I always give the gift of porn. It's the one present men never complain about (or return). But if you can't stand the thought of these films, then don't go there. Nothing is less sexy to a man than a woman who's uncomfortable. Guys may be turned on by the visuals in porn, but trust me, they'd rather have the real, in-the-flesh deal anytime.
Personally, I am pro-porn: Watching together can add zing to a long-term relationship. But the problem with most porn is that it's still mostly geared toward male fantasies. So look for titles by female directors, like Candida Royalle, who create videos with hot guys and plotlines that reflect women's fantasies. Don't worry if your man will like them, too: If they show skin, he will.
Men would love to cheat.
That doesn't mean they will, though. Luckily, they're either too guilty, too shy or too scared. Hey, it's biology: They see, they want, they fantasize. Men are not by nature monogamous animals, and they often have to fight their sexual urges, which many do very successfully. If a guy could live his perfect fantasy life, he would have a wife and a new fling whenever he felt like it. (While women look for that one "special" guy, men look for those five "special" girls.) Fifty percent of men say that if there were zero percent chance you'd find out, they'd cheat. But that also means 50 percent wouldn't — even if there were no danger of getting caught. Many men say that when they've had the idea, they nix it because they wouldn't want to mess up the good thing they've got at home. Smart guys.
Men want us to worship them.
Every man has a bit of Donald Trump in him. They want us to think they're strong, successful, and sexy. Most men would never admit this, but they'd like to think they're slightly smarter than the woman they're with. Yet they have no problem with the woman being 10 times better-looking than they are (that strokes his ego even more). Ultimately, they'd settle for just being able to do one thing better than us. I think it's because, privately, they know we're the superior sex.
Men love oral sex.
What do men want more of in bed? When I conducted a survey asking 100 men that question, 80 percent of them said, "More oral sex." Specifically, they wanted to be on the receiving end. Why do they love it so much? They don't have to worry about technique, and we do all the work (they're kinda lazy). Guys say the best treat a woman can give them is oral sex in the morning. Forget scones — this is his idea of breakfast in bed.
Men don't take hints.
When men are with other men, they don't tiptoe around each other and drop subtle suggestions. That's because hints don't register with guys. We women pride ourselves on being able to know intuitively what our friends, husbands, and kids are thinking, but men have no interest in reading minds. That's why one thing I've learned from men is, "If you don't ask, you don't get." In relationships, I don't expect a guy to know exactly what I want — and whenever I do, I'm disappointed. If, for example, you want him to take you out for your birthday, you're wasting your time dropping hints like "Guess what day Friday is? It's someone's birthday!" If you do that, you'll be 80 before he takes you out. And while you're at it, don't hint about wanting a gift that's shiny and lasts forever: To him, you've just described a set of Emeril pots and pans.
Men love their penises.
Man's best friend is actually his penis. And he assumes it's our best friend, too. After all, like a dog, it's always happy to see us, enjoys being petted, and often rubs itself against our legs. And have you noticed that guys are so intimate with their members that they often create pet names for them, including Mr. Friendly, Bob's Big Boy, and the ever-so-subtle Thruster?
While women have internal, squishy accommodations, men are equipped with external, throbbing reminders of the biological imperative to "spread the seed." Every time they look down at their tools standing at attention, they remember that their penises are there for a reason — to conquer the planet. That's why they've built so many monuments in the penis's likeness. The phallus is represented by erected symbols of power worldwide, from the Eiffel Tower to the Empire State Building.
Women don't make a big deal about what we have going on downstairs because we're too busy worrying about the size and shape of our other body parts. But men are obsessed with size. I live near a cactus store, and every time I walk by with a guy, he points to the biggest cactus in the window and says, "There's my size!" Do I believe them? No, because when men pull out the ruler — and they do — they almost always round up. If you ask a dozen men what the average length of an erect penis is, they'll say eight inches. But if you ask a dozen women, they'll say it's four inches. Bottom line: No matter how small it is, tell him it's huge. If it's too big, tell him just that. Trust me — he'll take it as a compliment.
Men don't get Valentine's Day.
Most guys consider February 14 a "chick holiday." And it stresses them out: They don't know what's expected, what they should buy, and how much (or how little) they should express their feelings. They're not incapable of romance, they just hate being romantic on cue. Just tell him, "V-Day is Friday. Let's go out for dinner." If you remind him when it is and let him off the hook for some of the standard requirements, he's more likely to deliver some creative romance of his own.
Single Girl Tips from Cosmo Magazine
Cosmopolitan Magazine wants us single chicas to live it up before that big rock hits the fingers!!! Thankfully, I've pretty much done 90% of everything on this list............ now what? Well, here goes -----
Single-Girl Things to Do Before You Marry
It doesn't matter if you're planning to tie the knot with your man in the next couple of years or if that trip down the aisle isn't even on your horizon. There are some things that you better indulge in now, because once you're hitched? Forget about it.
Date a guy who's totally wrong for you just because he has amazing abs. So what if he's five years younger and your polar opposite? The joy of running your hands across his six-pack is a perfectly legitimate reason to go out with him.
Collect at least six country stamps on your passport, including one from a place that until recently you didn't even know existed. Yes, it's fun to travel with your man, but you also have to have some solo adventures under your belt before you start sharing your life with him 100 percent.
Embrace feminine decor. Don't go so far as to paint the walls pink — that'll freak out any guy who sets foot in your place — but stock up on stuff that appeals to your girlie side. When you're building a nest with him, you'll have to compromise on furniture and accessories, so pile on cute throw pillows while the decorating is all up to you (because here's a tip: Guys hate the things).
Wear a hip, fabulous ring on your left hand. Once you have an engagement band, you won't want anything detracting attention from the ring.
Take advantage of the whole bed. You have the rest of your life to stick to "your" side when you sleep next to your man. Right now, place your pillow smack-dab in the center and make like a starfish.
Spend an embarrassing amount of money on a designer bag you love or heels that make you feel incredibly sexy. Chances are, when you have a joint account with your hubby, he's not going to get why a purse might be worth the GDP of a small country.
Learn how to change a tire and work a drill. It's easy to relegate all those "guy" tasks to your man (and you totally should enlist his help), but there's a sense of power that comes with being able to fix something yourself.
Slip one of those furry covers on the toilet. Once it's there, he'll have to accept it (and psst, they make it impossible for men to leave the seat up).Throw blowout bashes. Sure, it's nice to have a mellow get-together with your girlfriends, but that shouldn't be the extent of your social life. Before settling down, let your wild side reign.
Get a grip on your dough. Sign up for a retirement plan and invest extra income in stocks or CD accounts. Take charge of your own cash flow before merging moola with your guy.
Have your dad take you out to dinner as often as possible. The reasons: It's great bonding time, and his open-wallet generosity will dry up once you're hitched. Face it: Your reception is the last meal that'll be his treat.
Hone a signature lingerie style. Figure out what cuts and colors are hottest on you, and develop a look that's all your own. That way, your one-day groom will follow your lead ... and not buy the polyester, so-small-you-could-floss- your-teeth-with-it teddy.
Want a cat? Heed this advice: Buy it now. Call it Snowflake. Let it sleep next to you in bed. If you wait to get a pet with your betrothed, it will end up being a big, slobbering Lab called Bif.
If all you feel like eating for dinner is ice cream and diet soda, buy a cone and pop a Coke. When you and The Mister mangia together all the time, you'll be less likely to indulge those bizarre — but oh-so-satisfying — cravings.
Use tons of hot water in the a.m.
Take your celeb crush to the max. Plaster a poster of Ryan Gosling in your hallway, and set your computer wallpaper to a topless shot of him.
Plan your fantasy wedding. Now's the time to let your imagination roam — rip pictures of dresses from magazines, size up ceremony venues, and try on some rocks at the jewelry store. This stuff wigs guys out if they witness it, so get it out of your system now.
Start a pleasure ritual that a change in your relationship status can't disturb. Regularly treat yourself to something you love, whether it's a manicure, yoga classes at the fanciest studio in town, or a superrelaxing massage.
Set up your home in a way that fits your needs. Maybe keeping the coffee machine in the bathroom so you can get your caffeine boost while you put on makeup in the morning works for you. Until you have to deal with someone else weighing in on your unusual arrangement, customize.
Ashley Simpson and Pete Wentz are Engaged
Um, who didn't see this one coming??? It appears Ashley Simpson has decided to stop giving the milk for free..................... countdown to wedding begins ................ At least we can say that these two seem like they actually like each other.......... Congratulations to the Happy Couple!!! And I assume the stork watch/pregnancy rumors/jessica is so jealous/they're breaking up rumors can officially begin......... Let's see how long it takes In Touch/Us Weekly/Star/Life and Style to have them pregnant and divorced before the wedding...... LOLHere's the latest from People Magazine ----
Ashlee Simpson and Pete Wentz are getting married, they announced Wednesday.
"We know there has been a lot of speculation recently about Pete and I, and we wanted our fans to be the first to know, because you guys are the best," Simpson said in a statement. "Yes, we are thrilled to share that we are happily engaged. Thank you for all of your support and well wishes – it means the world to us. We consider this to be a very private matter, and we wanted to be the first to tell you and to hear it straight from us."
Simpson, 23, and Wentz, 28, a guitarist for the Fall Out Boys, have been a linked since the fall of 2006, when they were spotted kissing at a New York nightclub
A year later, they were still going strong. "We're past the honeymoon period," Wentz told PEOPLE. "The truth is, it's crazy to be able to kiss your best friend. It's just a really awesome thing."
Also, Simpson's father, Joe, gave Wentz the thumbs up. "He's a good kid," said Joe.
Speculation that they were engaged began last February when Simpson, the little sister of Jessica Simpson, was seen wearing a diamond ring on her engagement finger. At the time, she said it was a promise ring and that, "It just means that he hasn't asked my dad yet."
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Monday, February 11, 2008
Tax Reprieve Sweepstakes - (February 10 - March 31)
Leave a comment anywhere on this blog or Rebuilding Sierra Leone and you will automatically be entered into Boutique Mix's Tax Reprieve Sweepstakes to win one tote (ARV $30).............. Winner will be picked at 11.59 Est on March 31st. Goodluck!!!! Open to All. To see pictures of the previous prizes or to claim your prize, please go to Valentine's Day Sweepstakes Prizes.
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
Valentine's Day Sweepstakes Winners
THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO ENTERED THIS CONTEST!!!
Drumroll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations to everyone. I hope you enjoy your winnings. Please send your P.O.Box address or other mailing address to boutique-mix@hotmail.com and I will mail your prizes off this weekend. I will post pictures of the prizes on saturday before mailing them out. Enjoy!!!! STAY TUNED FOR THE NEXT CONTEST COMING SOON FROM BOUTIQUE MIX!!!!
Giftbaskets
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MiMi Necklaces
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Fashion Necklaces
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New additional Prizes - Fashion Necklaces
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Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Valentine's Day Sweepstakes - January 5 - February 5
THE VALENTINE'S DAY SWEEPSTAKES ENDS AT 11.59 PM ON TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 5TH!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Saturday, February 2, 2008
Valentine's Day is Almost Here!! Valentine's Day Sweepstakes
What are your plans this Valentine's Day? A Romantic Dinner? A Romantic Movie? A Romantic Trip? A Fabulous Solo Spa Vacation? Whatever your plans, here's to hoping you have a sassy time!!! Enjoy a few pics of your favorite romantic celebrity couples..........AND DONT FORGET TO ENTER Boutique Mix's VALENTINE'S DAY SWEEPSTAKES BELOW
DUE TO THE LARGE NUMBER OF ENTRIES ON THE Kreative Mix Blog WE HAVE ADDED THREE MORE NECKLACE SETS TO THE VALENTINE'S DAY SWEEPSTAKES......... 6 WINNERS INSTEAD OF 3!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Leave a comment anywhere on this blog or Rebuilding Sierra Leone or Kreative Mix and you will automatically be entered into Boutique Mix's Valentine's Day Sweepstakes to win one of two MiMi gift baskets (price ranges $45-$55) or a MiMi Design Necklace (price range $55-$60). I will post pictures of the actual items prior to announcing the 3(NOW 6) sassy winners!!!! This sweepstakes is open to all readers!!!
Monday, January 28, 2008
Picture of the Day instead of Cartoon of the Day!!!
I usually do the cartoon of the day, but today I thought I'd do something different.....
Ten Ways to Reawaken Passion in Your Relationship
If your relationship is starting to lose its passion you may need to make a conscious effort to re-ignite the spark in your relationship and reawaken the passion. Sometimes it may take elaborate plans and gestures to reawaken the passion in your relationship and sometimes it may just be small seemingly insignificant things that can help you to reawaken the passion in your relationship.
Planning a romantic weekend getaway can be one way to reawaken passion. A trip to a spa or a romantic destination can help to put the passion back in your relationship. This type of trip gives a couple the opportunity to step away from their everyday lives and spend some time focusing on romance.
Treating your partner with respect can also be a simple way to reawaken passion. Sometimes people get in the habit of taking their partner for granted while they continue to treat complete strangers and casual acquaintances with respect. People tend to work harder on casual relationship than they do on their romantic relationship because they take their partner for granted. Making an effort to impress your partner, however, can help to revive the passion.
Doing something new and adventurous can also help to reawaken the passion in your relationship. Try an activity that you have never done before such as skydiving or water skiing. Participating in an adventurous sport can make you feel more alive and this will transcend into your relationship and reawaken the passion.
Holding hands is another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship. This simple act draws you and your partner closer together. Most couples hold hands all the time early in their relationship but as time goes by they begin to do so less and less often. Grabbing your partners hand and holding on while you run errands can make your partner feel desired again and this will help put the passion back in your relationship.
Another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship is to plan date nights. Spend some time getting dressed up and plan a night out on the town. Putting this level of effort into a dinner date makes it feel much more special and romantic plus it gives you a chance to let your partner know that you are still interested in spending time with them. No mater how busy your week is, plan to have at least one night a week where the two of your connect in a special way. Even if it’s just some quiet time at home after the kids go to bed or even a family game night with the kids, it will give you time to bond.
Taking care in your own appearance is still another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship. If you feel good about yourself, you will be more appealing to your partner. Spend a few extra minutes getting ready to go out and really pamper yourself. This will give you a confidence boost that can help bring the passion back to your relationship.
Complimenting your partner can also help to reawaken passion. Noticing when your partner puts extra effort into their appearance lets them know that you still find them desirable and attractive. Even complimenting them when they aren’t all dressed up, lets them know that you love them for who they are and not just their appearance.
Even just planning trips that you would like to take in the future can reawaken passion. Spend an afternoon thinking of trips you would like to take together and make a list of all the places you want to go and all the things you want to do. This type of daydreaming draws a couple closer together and can revive passion.
Spending some quiet time together daily can be another way to reawaken passion. Plan on having at least a few minutes alone with your partner each day to help put the spark back into your relationship. Taking time to reconnect daily can help keep the passion in your relationship.
Taking a bath together can also help to reawaken passion in a relationship. This is a very sensual activity that makes you both feel pampered and gives you the opportunity to reconnect on a physical level. Beyond that it can also give you a chance to relax and unwind after a hard day of work and sometimes it’s the stresses of everyday life that are putting a damper on passion.
If your relationship is starting to lose its passion it doesn’t mean the relationship is over. All of these examples are simple ways that a couple can reawaken the passion in their relationship. As long as the love still exists, it is possible to bring back the passion.
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Ten Ways to Reawaken Passion in Your Relationship
If your relationship is starting to lose its passion you may need to make a conscious effort to re-ignite the spark in your relationship and reawaken the passion. Sometimes it may take elaborate plans and gestures to reawaken the passion in your relationship and sometimes it may just be small seemingly insignificant things that can help you to reawaken the passion in your relationship.
Planning a romantic weekend getaway can be one way to reawaken passion. A trip to a spa or a romantic destination can help to put the passion back in your relationship. This type of trip gives a couple the opportunity to step away from their everyday lives and spend some time focusing on romance.
Treating your partner with respect can also be a simple way to reawaken passion. Sometimes people get in the habit of taking their partner for granted while they continue to treat complete strangers and casual acquaintances with respect. People tend to work harder on casual relationship than they do on their romantic relationship because they take their partner for granted. Making an effort to impress your partner, however, can help to revive the passion.
Doing something new and adventurous can also help to reawaken the passion in your relationship. Try an activity that you have never done before such as skydiving or water skiing. Participating in an adventurous sport can make you feel more alive and this will transcend into your relationship and reawaken the passion.
Holding hands is another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship. This simple act draws you and your partner closer together. Most couples hold hands all the time early in their relationship but as time goes by they begin to do so less and less often. Grabbing your partners hand and holding on while you run errands can make your partner feel desired again and this will help put the passion back in your relationship.
Another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship is to plan date nights. Spend some time getting dressed up and plan a night out on the town. Putting this level of effort into a dinner date makes it feel much more special and romantic plus it gives you a chance to let your partner know that you are still interested in spending time with them. No mater how busy your week is, plan to have at least one night a week where the two of your connect in a special way. Even if it’s just some quiet time at home after the kids go to bed or even a family game night with the kids, it will give you time to bond.
Taking care in your own appearance is still another way to reawaken the passion in your relationship. If you feel good about yourself, you will be more appealing to your partner. Spend a few extra minutes getting ready to go out and really pamper yourself. This will give you a confidence boost that can help bring the passion back to your relationship.
Complimenting your partner can also help to reawaken passion. Noticing when your partner puts extra effort into their appearance lets them know that you still find them desirable and attractive. Even complimenting them when they aren’t all dressed up, lets them know that you love them for who they are and not just their appearance.
Even just planning trips that you would like to take in the future can reawaken passion. Spend an afternoon thinking of trips you would like to take together and make a list of all the places you want to go and all the things you want to do. This type of daydreaming draws a couple closer together and can revive passion.
Spending some quiet time together daily can be another way to reawaken passion. Plan on having at least a few minutes alone with your partner each day to help put the spark back into your relationship. Taking time to reconnect daily can help keep the passion in your relationship.
Taking a bath together can also help to reawaken passion in a relationship. This is a very sensual activity that makes you both feel pampered and gives you the opportunity to reconnect on a physical level. Beyond that it can also give you a chance to relax and unwind after a hard day of work and sometimes it’s the stresses of everyday life that are putting a damper on passion.
If your relationship is starting to lose its passion it doesn’t mean the relationship is over. All of these examples are simple ways that a couple can reawaken the passion in their relationship. As long as the love still exists, it is possible to bring back the passion.
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Jessica Murphy presents 10 Things You Should Never Say to a Woman
1) "What did you do to your hair?"
Unless we've cut our own hair—this is not common—someone else did something to our hair. It wasn't us. And most likely we've gone to a lot of trouble and expense for it. "I like your new haircut" is infinitely better, and shows you're paying attention. It's also far superior to the generic "You look different," which tells us you're as clueless as ever.
2) "They both look the same to me."
We understand you care a lot less than we do about the outfits or the registry dishware we're asking you to compare. But they can't possibly look exactly the same, can they? Give us something. Anything. Mentally roll the dice and pick one, so we don't worry about your vision—or worse, that you don't care.
3) "Relax."
A kissing cousin to "Don't get so worked up," this generally creates the exact opposite effect you're shooting for. When you say "Relax," what we hear is that you think that we're being irrational over nothing, and this makes us do anything but relax.
4) "I've got it all under control."
Ha! Famous last words. Refrain from using them if you don't want us to take fiendish delight in your getting lost because you won't stop for directions (if we're late, there will be fiendish fuming), or because you're missing a piece to your flat-screen television because you said you didn't need to read the assembly instructions.
5) "You're not one of those feminists, are you?"
Yikes. Chivalry may be nearly dead, but saying this will drive the last spear through its heart. Feminist or not, a woman is likely to be offended by the question. Just be yourself. Be kind, open the door, offer to pay, and go from there. We can choose to accept or share in your generosity.
6) "When are you due?"
Take one second to imagine a woman turning to you and responding, "I'm not pregnant," or "I had the baby six months ago," and you'll understand why you should eradicate this question from your vocabulary. In one nanosecond, innocent—even considerate—curiosity can turn to deadly, if unintentional, offense. And there's just no way to recover from this one.
7) "You're being emotional."
In the heat of the moment this may be true. But unless you want your partner to become more emotional or get angry, you're better off keeping this observation and its off-limits follow-up question—"Is it that time of month?"—to yourself.
8) "You're acting just like your mother/my mother/my ex-girlfriend."
All three are problematic. An ex should be mentioned sparingly, and never in comparison. Why would we want to remind you of a person you broke up with? And come to mention it, why are you thinking about her? You see the slippery slope. Conjuring an image of our mother or your mother can be equally grating. We want you to treat us as individuals and not as mere products of your (or our) upbringing.
9) "You complete me."
We've seen "Jerry Maguire" and most other romantic comedies far more often than you, and while we may (or may not) like cheesy movie lines, they usually fail in real life. We understand that the possibility of romance makes inexplicable things come out of a man's—and sometimes a woman's—mouth, but keep the compliments real and honest and sincere and say you love someone when you mean it.
10) "Do you really think you should be eating that?"
Yes. She should be eating it. Even if she told you she's given it up.
Jessica Murphy is a freelance writer based in Seattle.
Unless we've cut our own hair—this is not common—someone else did something to our hair. It wasn't us. And most likely we've gone to a lot of trouble and expense for it. "I like your new haircut" is infinitely better, and shows you're paying attention. It's also far superior to the generic "You look different," which tells us you're as clueless as ever.
2) "They both look the same to me."
We understand you care a lot less than we do about the outfits or the registry dishware we're asking you to compare. But they can't possibly look exactly the same, can they? Give us something. Anything. Mentally roll the dice and pick one, so we don't worry about your vision—or worse, that you don't care.
3) "Relax."
A kissing cousin to "Don't get so worked up," this generally creates the exact opposite effect you're shooting for. When you say "Relax," what we hear is that you think that we're being irrational over nothing, and this makes us do anything but relax.
4) "I've got it all under control."
Ha! Famous last words. Refrain from using them if you don't want us to take fiendish delight in your getting lost because you won't stop for directions (if we're late, there will be fiendish fuming), or because you're missing a piece to your flat-screen television because you said you didn't need to read the assembly instructions.
5) "You're not one of those feminists, are you?"
Yikes. Chivalry may be nearly dead, but saying this will drive the last spear through its heart. Feminist or not, a woman is likely to be offended by the question. Just be yourself. Be kind, open the door, offer to pay, and go from there. We can choose to accept or share in your generosity.
6) "When are you due?"
Take one second to imagine a woman turning to you and responding, "I'm not pregnant," or "I had the baby six months ago," and you'll understand why you should eradicate this question from your vocabulary. In one nanosecond, innocent—even considerate—curiosity can turn to deadly, if unintentional, offense. And there's just no way to recover from this one.
7) "You're being emotional."
In the heat of the moment this may be true. But unless you want your partner to become more emotional or get angry, you're better off keeping this observation and its off-limits follow-up question—"Is it that time of month?"—to yourself.
8) "You're acting just like your mother/my mother/my ex-girlfriend."
All three are problematic. An ex should be mentioned sparingly, and never in comparison. Why would we want to remind you of a person you broke up with? And come to mention it, why are you thinking about her? You see the slippery slope. Conjuring an image of our mother or your mother can be equally grating. We want you to treat us as individuals and not as mere products of your (or our) upbringing.
9) "You complete me."
We've seen "Jerry Maguire" and most other romantic comedies far more often than you, and while we may (or may not) like cheesy movie lines, they usually fail in real life. We understand that the possibility of romance makes inexplicable things come out of a man's—and sometimes a woman's—mouth, but keep the compliments real and honest and sincere and say you love someone when you mean it.
10) "Do you really think you should be eating that?"
Yes. She should be eating it. Even if she told you she's given it up.
Jessica Murphy is a freelance writer based in Seattle.
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Craig Playstead presents 10 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy
1) "That looks cute."
For the most part, men hate cute. We don't want to hear about it, we don't want to see it, and we sure as hell don't want to be it. If we come down stairs after getting dressed and you tell us we look cute, there's a 100 percent chance we're changing. We're supposed to be your protector, your rock, and cute does not fit into that picture.
2) "We need to talk."
These four words shut off a man's brain faster than long division. When men hear you say that they immediately go into flight mode. And anything they can do to get out of this conversation—and better yet, your apartment—they will. There are plenty of other ways to approach a delicate conversation, and getting us in a place where we feel comfortable is a good start.
3) "It's just a game."
Actually, it's not just a game. Sports are a major part of our lives and the outcome has as much to do with our mood as just about anything else. Is it fair? No. Is it right? No. Is it immature? Maybe. But it's life. Sometimes we just care too much. We understand that it doesn't make sense, but you should be happy that we're that passionate about something. Telling us that "it's just a game" is like us telling you that Oprah's just a talk show host.
4) "Nothing's wrong."
Please don't tell us nothing's wrong. The look on your face could make the toughest guy on the planet weep like a third-grade girl and your arms are crossed so tight you might explode. We're not mind readers; tell us what's going on. And don't make us guess because—believe me—you won't like what we come up with.
5) "I sound like my mom."
The mere fact that you might turn into your mom someday scares the hell out of us. Don't say it, even in jest—it's not funny. We actually believe (and pray) that the saying "every woman ends up looking like their mother" is an old wives' tale. If we didn't, no one would ever get married.
6) "I just want to be friends."
No you don't. You just want us to stop calling you. This is a lot like pulling off a band-aid. Do it quick—don't prolong the agony. Most of us take "I just want to be friends" as "There's still a chance," so if there isn't just make it a clean break and move on. Everyone will be much better because of it.
7) "Size doesn't matter."
Don't lie to us. We know it does, and we're doing our best to make up for it in other ways. It's best just to not say anything at all.
8) "What are you wearing?"
We're wearing whatever's clean or whatever you tell us to. We don't plan out our wardrobe days in advance, but we do actually try and look presentable. It may not work a lot of the time, but we do give it a shot. Giving us direction is completely encouraged though, so go ahead and suggest … nicely.
9) "Do you think she's pretty?"
Of course we do, our standards are much lower than yours. But just because we check her out doesn't mean we think any less of you. We try to be as discreet as possible, but for the most part, we can't help it. It's in our DNA. When an attractive woman walks by, it's best to just pretend nothing happened.
10) "Which outfit do you like better?"
I'm going to be honest here—90 percent of the guys out there are not going to tell you which outfit they like better: They're going to try to pick the one you like better and not get into a holy war when the babysitter is due any minute. To us, you always look good. Getting a couple cocktails and spending as much time as we can without the kids is our ultimate goal for a rare night out.
Craig Playstead is a freelance writer and father of three living in the suburbs of Seattle. In the past he's also been a sports writer, a game writer and a talk show host. You can reach him at playstead@hotmail.com.
Excerpted from msn.com
For the most part, men hate cute. We don't want to hear about it, we don't want to see it, and we sure as hell don't want to be it. If we come down stairs after getting dressed and you tell us we look cute, there's a 100 percent chance we're changing. We're supposed to be your protector, your rock, and cute does not fit into that picture.
2) "We need to talk."
These four words shut off a man's brain faster than long division. When men hear you say that they immediately go into flight mode. And anything they can do to get out of this conversation—and better yet, your apartment—they will. There are plenty of other ways to approach a delicate conversation, and getting us in a place where we feel comfortable is a good start.
3) "It's just a game."
Actually, it's not just a game. Sports are a major part of our lives and the outcome has as much to do with our mood as just about anything else. Is it fair? No. Is it right? No. Is it immature? Maybe. But it's life. Sometimes we just care too much. We understand that it doesn't make sense, but you should be happy that we're that passionate about something. Telling us that "it's just a game" is like us telling you that Oprah's just a talk show host.
4) "Nothing's wrong."
Please don't tell us nothing's wrong. The look on your face could make the toughest guy on the planet weep like a third-grade girl and your arms are crossed so tight you might explode. We're not mind readers; tell us what's going on. And don't make us guess because—believe me—you won't like what we come up with.
5) "I sound like my mom."
The mere fact that you might turn into your mom someday scares the hell out of us. Don't say it, even in jest—it's not funny. We actually believe (and pray) that the saying "every woman ends up looking like their mother" is an old wives' tale. If we didn't, no one would ever get married.
6) "I just want to be friends."
No you don't. You just want us to stop calling you. This is a lot like pulling off a band-aid. Do it quick—don't prolong the agony. Most of us take "I just want to be friends" as "There's still a chance," so if there isn't just make it a clean break and move on. Everyone will be much better because of it.
7) "Size doesn't matter."
Don't lie to us. We know it does, and we're doing our best to make up for it in other ways. It's best just to not say anything at all.
8) "What are you wearing?"
We're wearing whatever's clean or whatever you tell us to. We don't plan out our wardrobe days in advance, but we do actually try and look presentable. It may not work a lot of the time, but we do give it a shot. Giving us direction is completely encouraged though, so go ahead and suggest … nicely.
9) "Do you think she's pretty?"
Of course we do, our standards are much lower than yours. But just because we check her out doesn't mean we think any less of you. We try to be as discreet as possible, but for the most part, we can't help it. It's in our DNA. When an attractive woman walks by, it's best to just pretend nothing happened.
10) "Which outfit do you like better?"
I'm going to be honest here—90 percent of the guys out there are not going to tell you which outfit they like better: They're going to try to pick the one you like better and not get into a holy war when the babysitter is due any minute. To us, you always look good. Getting a couple cocktails and spending as much time as we can without the kids is our ultimate goal for a rare night out.
Craig Playstead is a freelance writer and father of three living in the suburbs of Seattle. In the past he's also been a sports writer, a game writer and a talk show host. You can reach him at playstead@hotmail.com.
Excerpted from msn.com
5 kinds of Chemisty - Have you felt them all??
I found this great article written by Jonathan Small at msn.com.
Pretty much all of us know what someone’s talking about when they say, “Hey, I was on a date, and — wow — we had incredible chemistry.” In a nutshell, that means that these two people felt such a strong attraction to each other that they couldn’t wait to get somewhere, ahem, a little more private, right? Sure, that may be the most traditional kind of chemistry, but it’s hardly the only type. According to experts, that earth-moving, spark-flying phenomenon can assume many forms. To help you sort through all those crazy feelings you may have for someone, we’ve described five of the most common types of attraction you can experience. Recognizing and savoring all of them can lead to a fantastic, long-lasting relationship.
Type #1: Tear-each-other’s-clothes-off chemistry
This is the most common type of chemistry, but it’s also the most misunderstood. After all, pretty much everyone’s made the mistake of confusing physical attraction with love. Is there a way to differentiate one feeling from the other? Helen Fisher, Ph.D., an anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of Why We Love, explains it this way: “Lust is basically the craving for sexual gratification,” she says. “It generally dissipates after having sex and returns hours or days later. You can feel it for several different people at the same time, and you don’t necessarily feel ‘possessive’ or jealous. But when you’re in love, you are very possessive.”
No one is saying sexual chemistry is evil or that you should necessarily hold out for something deeper. Nor should you fret if you feel like great sex is all you have in common with someone at first. According to Dr. Fisher, having sex with someone can trigger a peak in the feel-good chemical dopamine, which, over time, can produce genuine, bonafide feelings of love. Hang in there, and it just may happen!
Type #2: We’re-so-comfortable chemistry
Have you ever been with a guy who finishes your sentences, or a woman who’s so easy to talk to, you feel like you can be totally natural around her? Welcome to comfort chemistry—that effortless rapport and connection that can exist between two people. “People who share this chemistry often feel like they’re a unit,” says Harry Reis, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester. “When they talk to each other, they almost feel like they’re talking to themselves.” Worried that all this familiarity makes you better friends than lovers? Never fear, simpatico feelings can often lead to lust later. “When you fall in love, the elevated activity of dopamine can affect levels of testosterone and trigger a heightened sex drive,” explains Fisher. Translation: You two may be passionate partners in no time!
Type #3: We-laugh-like-crazy-together chemistry
Ask someone to give you a wish list of what they look for in a mate, and humor almost always appears near the top of the list. “Everybody likes to laugh,” says Kate Wachs, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Relationships for Dummies. “We’re all looking for a mate that helps us have fun.” Researchers have even found that laughing together increases how attractive people look to each other. So, don’t automatically relegate jokers to the role of “great to invite to a party.” Where there’s laughter, long-term love can follow: Just think how much easier it’ll be to get through those rocky points that every relationship experiences sooner or later.
Type #4: We’re-so-complementary chemistry
While it’s important for us to find a mate who shares our values, we’re also attracted to those who are different from us. “We like complementary personalities who accentuate our good parts and mask our flaws,” says Dr. Fisher. For example, a sexy fashion model might have real chemistry with a nerdy mathematician—and vice versa. Why? She makes him feel sexy, and he makes her feel smart. Same goes for the anti-social type who marries a people person. We’re drawn to those who make us feel like better and more well-rounded people. Remember the famous line in Jerry Maguire: “You complete me?” That’s complementary chemistry in action.
Type #5: We-have-so-much-in-common chemistry
As anyone who has ever searched profiles on Match.com knows, finding common interests with your potential mate is a huge plus—whether that’s a penchant to cruise flea markets for that one-of-a-kind antique, or a love of camping deep in the wilderness. “We tend to gravitate towards people who share the similar interests as us,” Dr. Fisher says. Not only does doing so make spending time together insanely easy, but sharing an activity you both enjoy allows you to get to know each other in a low-pressure environment. Plus, just think of what a bonding experience it would be if you both scaled those waterfalls at Yosemite together! These touchstones can become the foundation for a lot of fond memories—and a solid relationship.
Now that you know the five types of chemistry, be on the lookout to experience them all. Even if you don’t feel that “lightning has struck!” sensation when meeting someone, you two still might have excellent chemistry, if it’s given time to grow.
Jonathan Small is a Los Angeles-based writer who’s written for Glamour and other publications.
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Wednesday, January 23, 2008
RIP Heath Ledger
Our deepest condolences to his family.
People Magazine reports that Heath Ledger was found dead at his Manhattan residence, a police spokesman confirms to the Associated Press. He was 28.
Police say the death may be drug-related. The NYPD spokesman tells AP that Ledger had a massage appointment at his Soho apartment. When the housekeeper went to alert Ledger the masseuse was there, she found him at around 3:26 p.m.
He did not respond when they shook him, and the housekeeper called 911, The New York Times reports. He was pronounced dead at 3:45 p.m. Authorities later said they did not suspect foul play but that pills were found near the body.
Despite initial reports that Ledger was subletting the apartment from Mary-Kate Olsen, reps for the actress denied that Olsen ever owned or lived in the apartment.
Ledger was last spotted publicly in London on Saturday on the set of Terry Gilliam’s The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus. Photos show Ledger wearing a clown costume. Other pictures of Ledger out of costume show him with long brown hair and a dark goatee.
Excerpted from People Magazine.
According to US Weekly Magazine, Heath Ledger's "close friend" saw this coming ...... What did they do about it? I guess what's meant to be will be, and I truly hope he rests in peace!! Our hearts go out to all his family, friends and fans who loved him!!!!
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People Magazine reports that Heath Ledger was found dead at his Manhattan residence, a police spokesman confirms to the Associated Press. He was 28.
Police say the death may be drug-related. The NYPD spokesman tells AP that Ledger had a massage appointment at his Soho apartment. When the housekeeper went to alert Ledger the masseuse was there, she found him at around 3:26 p.m.
He did not respond when they shook him, and the housekeeper called 911, The New York Times reports. He was pronounced dead at 3:45 p.m. Authorities later said they did not suspect foul play but that pills were found near the body.
Despite initial reports that Ledger was subletting the apartment from Mary-Kate Olsen, reps for the actress denied that Olsen ever owned or lived in the apartment.
Ledger was last spotted publicly in London on Saturday on the set of Terry Gilliam’s The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus. Photos show Ledger wearing a clown costume. Other pictures of Ledger out of costume show him with long brown hair and a dark goatee.
Excerpted from People Magazine.
According to US Weekly Magazine, Heath Ledger's "close friend" saw this coming ...... What did they do about it? I guess what's meant to be will be, and I truly hope he rests in peace!! Our hearts go out to all his family, friends and fans who loved him!!!!
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Monday, January 21, 2008
Is Online Dating the same as Placing/Responding to a Personal Ad in a newspaper?
Is it? I had a discussion with my buddy earlier today who said "personal ads are so tacky and 1999. Now its all about online dating." Um, Newsflash............. You're still putting an ad. Ok, so its not technically the newspaper, but let's not split hairs - searching for love is searching for love, no matter the medium.
Just because you've moved from the paper to the electronic highway doesn't mean you're now part of some elite group. You are still on the prowl, only now, a lot more people have access to your "ad." I don't understand why some folks think these two are mutually exclusive. An Ad is an Ad - whether its in the NY Times or on Match.com.
Get over it!!!! or Deal with it!!!! Don't get me wrong - of course, I'm aware that the internet is more popular these days.......... i'm on it!!! I'm offended by my buddy's extra comment that "paper ads are for anti-social losers because the internet is for cool guys like me." Seriously dude, don't even get me started. Anti-social losers??????? If I didn't need the energy to write about my last date, I'd rip my "buddy" a new one...............
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Martin Luther King Jr.'s Dream - How do we carry on his Legacy?
May we Never Forget the Sacrifices others made to Get Us Here!!!! May we honor the legacy to fulfill this dream!!!
Below is an excerpt of Martin Luther King, Jr.'s Dream for America --
And so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.
I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal."
I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia, the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood.
I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a state sweltering with the heat of injustice, sweltering with the heat of oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.
I have a dream today!
I have a dream that one day, down in Alabama, with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the words of "interposition" and "nullification" -- one day right there in Alabama little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers.
I have a dream today!
I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, and every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight; "and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed and all flesh shall see it together."²
This is our hope, and this is the faith that I go back to the South with.
With this faith, we will be able to hew out of the mountain of despair a stone of hope. With this faith, we will be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood. With this faith, we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.
And this will be the day -- this will be the day when all of God's children will be able to sing with new meaning:
My country 'tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing.
Land where my fathers died, land of the Pilgrim's pride,
From every mountainside, let freedom ring!
And if America is to be a great nation, this must become true.
And so let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire.
Let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York.
Let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of
Pennsylvania.
Let freedom ring from the snow-capped Rockies of Colorado.
Let freedom ring from the curvaceous slopes of California.
But not only that:
Let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia.
Let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee.
Let freedom ring from every hill and molehill of Mississippi.
From every mountainside, let freedom ring.
And when this happens, when we allow freedom ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual:
Free at last! Free at last!
Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!
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UPDATED!! - Valentine's Day Sweepstakes - January 5 - February 5
THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO ENTERED THIS CONTEST!!!
Drumroll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations to everyone. I hope you enjoy your winnings. Please send your P.O.Box address or other mailing address to boutique-mix@hotmail.com and I will mail your prizes off this weekend. I will post pictures of the prizes on saturday before mailing them out. Enjoy!!!! STAY TUNED FOR THE NEXT CONTEST COMING NEXT WEEK FROM BOUTIQUE MIX!!!!
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THE VALENTINE'S DAY SWEEPSTAKES ENDS AT 11.59 PM ON TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 5TH!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
DUE TO THE LARGE NUMBER OF ENTRIES ON THE Kreative Mix Blog WE HAVE ADDED THREE MORE NECKLACE SETS TO THE VALENTINE'S DAY SWEEPSTAKES......... 6 WINNERS INSTEAD OF 3!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
DUE TO THE LARGE NUMBER OF ENTRIES ON THE Kreative Mix Blog WE HAVE ADDED THREE MORE NECKLACE SETS TO THE VALENTINE'S DAY SWEEPSTAKES......... 6 WINNERS INSTEAD OF 3!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Leave a comment anywhere on this blog or Rebuilding Sierra Leone or Kreative Mix and you will automatically be entered into Boutique Mix's Valentine's Day Sweepstakes to win one of two MiMi gift baskets (price ranges $45-$55) or a MiMi Design Necklace (price range $55-$60).
I will post pictures of the actual items prior to announcing the 3(NOW 6) sassy winners!!!! This sweepstakes is open to all readers!!!
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A few Dating Books
Get great tips on online dating and relationships in general!!!!!
Synopsis: An online dating consultant and a TV columnist share the secrets of finding and maintaining personal relationships, offering a series of helpful guidelines on how eliminate negative behaviors and attitudes that affect one's bonds with others.
Synopsis: Chopra takes us on an inspiring journey into our heart's desire and reveals how to tap into the love that can transform our lives. Filled with inspiring, timeless love stories, and practical exercises and wisdom, Deepak Chopra's "The Path to Love" is destined to do for the spirit of love...
Synopsis: An innovative program designed to help men and women overcome their shyness to successfully navigate a variety of social situations uses a dating profile quiz and journaling exercises to help readers understand their dating preferences and style and offers practical advice on online dating...
Why You're Still Single
Path to Love
The Shy Single
Been There, Done That, Kept the Jewelry
Online Dating Tips and Articles
Check out OnlineDatingMagazine.com for online dating tips and/or insight. Whether you're looking for advice on what to wear for your first date or third date, to how to plan your date, this site has it all. It even helps you "break-up" graciously....... hmmmmm
Quick Tip Articles List Focus
Three Profile Tips to Build a Better Profile - Tips / Insight
Creating Profile Headers That Attract Attention - Tips / Insight
Dating Tips for Workaholics - Tips / Insight
Why He Dumped You (and get back on track) - Tips / Insight
How to Know if Your Love is Real - Tips / Warning
10 Important Dating Tips for Men - Tips
First Date Do's and Dont's - Tips
12 Tips for Safe Online Dating - Tips / Warning
First Date Conversation Starters - Tips
The Do's and Dont's of Perfect Skin Improvement
First Date Ideas Ideas
10 Ways to Break Up Graciously - Tips
Daily Regime for Healthier Skin Improvement
Eight Warning Signs That He is Going to End it Warning
Women: Five Men You Should Avoid Dating Warning
Chatroom Dating Tips and Chatroom Safety
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You're Not the Only One Online!!! And Eddie Murphy & Tracey Edmonds Splitsville
Celebrities dabble in Online dating by By Ed Krayewski/FOX News
Social networking and online dating Web sites have become popular for letting everyday people create celebrity-like identities for themselves. But celebrities are using the very same sites to shun their Hollywood identities in favor of meeting everyday people.
Stars like Joan Rivers and Halle Berry have confessed to checking out online dating sites — and Rivers even posted an ad on Match.com. "I love smart men, funny men, elegant men," Rivers' profile reads. "If I had to choose between Brad Pitt stripped to the waist or an old George Clooney in a dinner jacket, George would win hands down." Rivers admitted to Howard Stern last month that she placed the Match.com ad.
Rivers' profile also tells readers she is a comedian, interested in "coffee and conversation" and includes a picture of the 72-year-old comic. Even beautiful Oscar-winner Halle Berry has admitted to spending a lot of time in chat rooms, and to dabbling with dating sites. I am never who I am,” Berry told Contact Music in July about her experiences online. “I have been to a couple of dating ones just to see what everybody is talking about. I chime in and say a little fun stuff." While it seems unthinkable that stars who attend A-list parties would want to have coffee with the average Joe or Jane, Date.com’s Shira Kallus says some celebrities really just want to be normal.
“They can stop being celebrities and start being people,” she said. “Online dating lets people get to know you for what kind of person you are, not who you are." The founder of romance advice site TheRomantic.com, Michael Webb, agreed. "Celebrities are just like everyone else," he said. "Unfortunately people can become captivated by the celebrity status and be attracted to them for the wrong reasons."
With online dating, celebrities can try to develop a relationship based on their character, not their stardom, Webb added. And the stars have dry spells just like everyone else. Rivers Cuomo, frontman of the rock band Weezer, signed up for an online dating service site after remaining celibate for two years, he told Rolling Stone magazine last May. And last year, Luke Greenfield, director of the 2004 Elisha Cuthbert movie "The Girl Next Door," placed a profile on Jewish dating site JDate, according Hollywood gossip site Defamer. "I'm taking time off and I'm looking for a cool, sexy girl who's sharp, fun, loving, and has great taste," Greenfield's profile read. He told readers he just bought a house and needs help decorating, and that those who don't love movies need not apply.
Defamer has a disclaimer along with its report. "We have to recognize the possibility that the profile is the work of some very bored prankster," it said. "But why should we be so surprised that a person like Greenfield might be out there hunting for a suitable, faith-appropriate mate?" However, when it comes to making a love connection, many still swear by "the real world." Out of 2,000 people polled, just 7 percent believe computer-dating services work, according to a recent annual survey by romance-novel publisher Harlequin.
And a 2005 study by Keynote, an Internet industry research firm, shows customer satisfaction with online dating is low. Sixty-one percent believe others are misrepresenting themselves. And a whole 30 percent are married or live with a significant other, according to Keynote. The study goes on to mention other problems, such as functionality and organization, that lead to customer dissatisfaction.
Cuomo was one of those dissatisfied customers. After submitting his profile, he said the Web site responded: "We are sorry, but there is no one anywhere in the world that is appropriate for you." “So that was it, I gave up," he said. Rivers told Stern she hasn't received a single message yet. And Berry found her latest love, Candian model Gabriel Aubry, at a photo shoot in Canada. But it’s worked for others. Date.com, for example, claims to have been responsible for at least 250 marriages.
Far more trendy these days, however, are free social networking services, which are often used for dating. MySpace, for example, has more than 59 million members, many who list “dating” as one of the reasons for joining. There are pages on MySpace for most celebrities; a search for Cuomo comes up with 36 pages and a search for Berry more than 50. Virtually all of them are created as fan pages or hoaxes. But as the No. 5 English-language Web site, according to Alexa Internet’s rankings, people on the site get exposure.
Todd Shaeffer, an aspiring actor from Harrisburg, Penn., has a page on MySpace. While on the set of the upcoming M. Night Shamalayan film, “Lady in the Water” as an extra, Shaeffer said he told the first assistant director, John Rusk, his first name, to which Rusk replied, “Todd Shaeffer?” Shaeffer said yes and Rusk then asked, “Oh My Todd?” "Oh My Todd" is Shaeffer’s MySpace handle. “I just started laughing and blushed like crazy that this guy knew my name and my MySpace name,” Shaeffer said. “I didn’t put it anywhere on anything that I filled out. I asked him how he knew my name and my MySpace name, but he wouldn’t tell me.” Which just goes to show: you never know who's looking at you online. It could be Halle Berry, so you might want to say hello.
Social networking and online dating Web sites have become popular for letting everyday people create celebrity-like identities for themselves. But celebrities are using the very same sites to shun their Hollywood identities in favor of meeting everyday people.
Stars like Joan Rivers and Halle Berry have confessed to checking out online dating sites — and Rivers even posted an ad on Match.com. "I love smart men, funny men, elegant men," Rivers' profile reads. "If I had to choose between Brad Pitt stripped to the waist or an old George Clooney in a dinner jacket, George would win hands down." Rivers admitted to Howard Stern last month that she placed the Match.com ad.
Rivers' profile also tells readers she is a comedian, interested in "coffee and conversation" and includes a picture of the 72-year-old comic. Even beautiful Oscar-winner Halle Berry has admitted to spending a lot of time in chat rooms, and to dabbling with dating sites. I am never who I am,” Berry told Contact Music in July about her experiences online. “I have been to a couple of dating ones just to see what everybody is talking about. I chime in and say a little fun stuff." While it seems unthinkable that stars who attend A-list parties would want to have coffee with the average Joe or Jane, Date.com’s Shira Kallus says some celebrities really just want to be normal.
“They can stop being celebrities and start being people,” she said. “Online dating lets people get to know you for what kind of person you are, not who you are." The founder of romance advice site TheRomantic.com, Michael Webb, agreed. "Celebrities are just like everyone else," he said. "Unfortunately people can become captivated by the celebrity status and be attracted to them for the wrong reasons."
With online dating, celebrities can try to develop a relationship based on their character, not their stardom, Webb added. And the stars have dry spells just like everyone else. Rivers Cuomo, frontman of the rock band Weezer, signed up for an online dating service site after remaining celibate for two years, he told Rolling Stone magazine last May. And last year, Luke Greenfield, director of the 2004 Elisha Cuthbert movie "The Girl Next Door," placed a profile on Jewish dating site JDate, according Hollywood gossip site Defamer. "I'm taking time off and I'm looking for a cool, sexy girl who's sharp, fun, loving, and has great taste," Greenfield's profile read. He told readers he just bought a house and needs help decorating, and that those who don't love movies need not apply.
Defamer has a disclaimer along with its report. "We have to recognize the possibility that the profile is the work of some very bored prankster," it said. "But why should we be so surprised that a person like Greenfield might be out there hunting for a suitable, faith-appropriate mate?" However, when it comes to making a love connection, many still swear by "the real world." Out of 2,000 people polled, just 7 percent believe computer-dating services work, according to a recent annual survey by romance-novel publisher Harlequin.
And a 2005 study by Keynote, an Internet industry research firm, shows customer satisfaction with online dating is low. Sixty-one percent believe others are misrepresenting themselves. And a whole 30 percent are married or live with a significant other, according to Keynote. The study goes on to mention other problems, such as functionality and organization, that lead to customer dissatisfaction.
Cuomo was one of those dissatisfied customers. After submitting his profile, he said the Web site responded: "We are sorry, but there is no one anywhere in the world that is appropriate for you." “So that was it, I gave up," he said. Rivers told Stern she hasn't received a single message yet. And Berry found her latest love, Candian model Gabriel Aubry, at a photo shoot in Canada. But it’s worked for others. Date.com, for example, claims to have been responsible for at least 250 marriages.
Far more trendy these days, however, are free social networking services, which are often used for dating. MySpace, for example, has more than 59 million members, many who list “dating” as one of the reasons for joining. There are pages on MySpace for most celebrities; a search for Cuomo comes up with 36 pages and a search for Berry more than 50. Virtually all of them are created as fan pages or hoaxes. But as the No. 5 English-language Web site, according to Alexa Internet’s rankings, people on the site get exposure.
Todd Shaeffer, an aspiring actor from Harrisburg, Penn., has a page on MySpace. While on the set of the upcoming M. Night Shamalayan film, “Lady in the Water” as an extra, Shaeffer said he told the first assistant director, John Rusk, his first name, to which Rusk replied, “Todd Shaeffer?” Shaeffer said yes and Rusk then asked, “Oh My Todd?” "Oh My Todd" is Shaeffer’s MySpace handle. “I just started laughing and blushed like crazy that this guy knew my name and my MySpace name,” Shaeffer said. “I didn’t put it anywhere on anything that I filled out. I asked him how he knew my name and my MySpace name, but he wouldn’t tell me.” Which just goes to show: you never know who's looking at you online. It could be Halle Berry, so you might want to say hello.
I usually don't dabble in gossip, but I can't help this one - Was this even for Real??? Stunt or Fantasy gone Bad??? I'm posting the Eddie Murphy and Tracey Edmonds publicity stunt, ahem, dating and wedding pictures for my good pal, who saw their gorgeous wedding pictures [before the separation] and said "oh i'm gonna join match. I need to find me a man so that I can look that happy." Really??? Do you still feel that way? Remember that celebrity pictures of "pure bliss" should not be the benchmark we use for shaping our love lives. A week in celebrity land is like a year in real life!!!!
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Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Valentine's Day Sweepstakes - January 5 - February 5
THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO ENTERED THIS CONTEST!!!
Drumroll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations to everyone. I hope you enjoy your winnings. Please send your P.O.Box address or other mailing address to boutique-mix@hotmail.com and I will mail your prizes off this weekend. I will post pictures of the prizes on saturday before mailing them out. Enjoy!!!! STAY TUNED FOR THE NEXT CONTEST COMING NEXT WEEK FROM BOUTIQUE MIX!!!!
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1. Kreativemix Site = Knikki from Popularly Unpopular
2. Rebuilding Sa Lone Site = Stman109 (Jan 7 12.54am entry time)
MiMi Necklaces
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4. Online Daters Annonymous site = Bogueflower (Jan 29 5.28 entry time)
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6. Rebuilding Sa Lone= Meesh-o-matic
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7. Kreativemix site = Annonymous (Jan 11 11.32pm entry time)
8. Kreativemix site = Kari (Jan 22 12.52 am)
9. Kreativemix site = amberrose95 Jan 29 2.23am entry time)
10.Kreativemix site = Jess from Foster Communications
THE VALENTINE'S DAY SWEEPSTAKES ENDS AT 11.59 PM ON TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 5TH!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Leave a comment anywhere on this blog or Kreative Mix or Rebuilding Sierra Leone and you will automatically be entered into Boutique Mix's Valentine's Day Sweepstakes to win one of two MiMi gift baskets (price ranges $45-$55) or a MiMi Design Necklace (price range $55-$60).
I will post pictures of the actual items prior to announcing the 3 sassy winners!!!! This sweepstakes is open to all readers!!!
Sunday, January 6, 2008
Online Dating Conference - HuH??
Hey there Onlinedaters, how many times has this happened to you????
In other onlinedating news, the folks who do that wonderful job of matching you on 39 dimensions with your one true love are meeting out in Miami, Florida (the city of true love, right?) Right - to bring you even truer love this year. Lucky lucky you. As you ask yourself what you've done to deserve this good good blessing, I'll go find some energy to write about my fifth date, which unlike the other four, actually lasted two months :-) Yup, get ready for the drama, laughter and head-shaking!!! heeeeheeeheeee.
Look at what your online dating cash is paying for this year - Miami Online Dating Conference.
Oh, and when you're done you can check out Online Dating Review for all the reasons why they think you should try online dating. 2008 is turning out to be the year of 39 dimensions indeed ........
Oh!!! Before I forget, for those of you chicas who've been salivating over the "31 ways to marry a fabulous man" by "Pari Livermore" post, here's more for you.....
More Humor for the Road............
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Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Sassy Cause - Official Start of the 2008 Pledge Campaign!!!!
Happy New Year to Everyone. Today is the official launch of our 2008 Pledge Campaign. Please CLICK HERE to learn about the 2008 pledge!!!!!!
Monday, December 31, 2007
Here's What You Said in the Polls
Thanks to everyone who participated in the 2008 Polls!!! The Poll results are in and 69% of you plan to save more cash in 2008!!!! 13% of you plan to buy a new home, 4% of you plan to date more, 4% of you plan to lose weight, and 8% of you have no resolutions for 2008!!!
Please take a minute to participate in the new polls.... :-)
Bubbles & Bows
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Sunday, December 30, 2007
31 Ways to Meet a Fabulous Man
Hope everyone is having a fabulous holiday season!!! While browsing through some news on msnbc.com something caught my eye - 31 Ways to meet a quality man by Pari Livermore, author of How to Marry a Fabulous Man. For those of you who are looking for a quality man, here's your roadmap for 2008. Good luck!!! :-)
31 ways to meet a quality man.
1. Give a party - ...with a man who has some great friends. You invite the women — he invites the men.
2. Practice recycling - Trade your old beaus with your friends.
3. Get set up - Ask 10 friends you admire to introduce you to someone special.
4. Attend events with beautiful women - They’ll make you sparkle, too. Men flock to them and you can enjoy the overflow.
5. Matchmake your friends - And make sure they reciprocate!
6. Go to parties - ...even if you don’t feel like it. Many women who go to parties with few expectations end up meeting their future husbands this way.
7. Gravitate toward the hot spots - ...at a party. Stand next to the group of people who look like they are having the best time.
8. Be friendly at your grocery store - If a man hovers around the pasta, give him your grandmother’s recipe for tomato sauce.
9. Go for the friends - If a guy has cool friends, throw him a surprise birthday party.
10. Give back - Donate time to nonprofit organizations in your community.
11. Find extra-cirricular activities - Join every organization that interests you.
12. Date online - Sign up with an Internet dating service. Try niche ones for people with similar interests such as religion, politics or the arts.
13. Get sporty - Observe or participate in athletic events. Join a ski, volleyball or tennis club.
14. Take a night class - Choose a subject you’re interested in that you think would also appeal to someone with lots of testosterone.
15. Be a flirt - Do a little flirting if you’re in a safe environment. Don’t be afraid to stare at an attractive man from across the room.
16. Get political - Offer your services to an election campaign or political group. Most men love politics.
17. Attend a house of worship - Take part in their events. If they don’t have a singles group, offer to start one.
18. Host a salon - Invite artists to display their work and performers to perform in your home. Invite their friends.
19. Buy a dress - ...that makes you feel beautiful and wear it often.
20. Turn up the kitchen heat - Learn to cook a few simple, delicious meals. Start a cooking class for singles.
21. Always look your best - You never know when or where you’ll meet someone.
22. Know what you want - List the three most important qualities you admire in a man. Only date men who have those qualities.
23. Be open-minded - If a man has the qualities you want, even if he’s not perfect, make an effort to date outside your comfort zone.
24. Be your best self - Polish the facets of your life, both skills and attitudes.
25. Write your own commercial - List 10 things that are wonderful about you.
26. Forgive yourself - Don't carry baggage.
27. Become an expert - ...on a subject that interests you.
28. Reinvent yourself - Lose some weight, buy a new wardrobe, develop new interests or break old habits.
29. Be positive - Put on a happy face, and don’t gossip.
30. Don’t be too aggressive - Why serve yourself to a man on a silver platter? Make it more difficult; give him the can and let him open it.
31. Visualize what you want - Conjure visions of a successful courtship and a beautiful marriage.
MSNBC
31 ways to meet a quality man.
1. Give a party - ...with a man who has some great friends. You invite the women — he invites the men.
2. Practice recycling - Trade your old beaus with your friends.
3. Get set up - Ask 10 friends you admire to introduce you to someone special.
4. Attend events with beautiful women - They’ll make you sparkle, too. Men flock to them and you can enjoy the overflow.
5. Matchmake your friends - And make sure they reciprocate!
6. Go to parties - ...even if you don’t feel like it. Many women who go to parties with few expectations end up meeting their future husbands this way.
7. Gravitate toward the hot spots - ...at a party. Stand next to the group of people who look like they are having the best time.
8. Be friendly at your grocery store - If a man hovers around the pasta, give him your grandmother’s recipe for tomato sauce.
9. Go for the friends - If a guy has cool friends, throw him a surprise birthday party.
10. Give back - Donate time to nonprofit organizations in your community.
11. Find extra-cirricular activities - Join every organization that interests you.
12. Date online - Sign up with an Internet dating service. Try niche ones for people with similar interests such as religion, politics or the arts.
13. Get sporty - Observe or participate in athletic events. Join a ski, volleyball or tennis club.
14. Take a night class - Choose a subject you’re interested in that you think would also appeal to someone with lots of testosterone.
15. Be a flirt - Do a little flirting if you’re in a safe environment. Don’t be afraid to stare at an attractive man from across the room.
16. Get political - Offer your services to an election campaign or political group. Most men love politics.
17. Attend a house of worship - Take part in their events. If they don’t have a singles group, offer to start one.
18. Host a salon - Invite artists to display their work and performers to perform in your home. Invite their friends.
19. Buy a dress - ...that makes you feel beautiful and wear it often.
20. Turn up the kitchen heat - Learn to cook a few simple, delicious meals. Start a cooking class for singles.
21. Always look your best - You never know when or where you’ll meet someone.
22. Know what you want - List the three most important qualities you admire in a man. Only date men who have those qualities.
23. Be open-minded - If a man has the qualities you want, even if he’s not perfect, make an effort to date outside your comfort zone.
24. Be your best self - Polish the facets of your life, both skills and attitudes.
25. Write your own commercial - List 10 things that are wonderful about you.
26. Forgive yourself - Don't carry baggage.
27. Become an expert - ...on a subject that interests you.
28. Reinvent yourself - Lose some weight, buy a new wardrobe, develop new interests or break old habits.
29. Be positive - Put on a happy face, and don’t gossip.
30. Don’t be too aggressive - Why serve yourself to a man on a silver platter? Make it more difficult; give him the can and let him open it.
31. Visualize what you want - Conjure visions of a successful courtship and a beautiful marriage.
MSNBC
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Saturday, December 22, 2007
Happy Holidays to Everyone!!
Wishing Everyone a Fabulously Sassy Holiday Season!!!
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Monday, December 17, 2007
Date # 4 Teaser - EntrepreneurialPharmacist987
Sorry for the delay guys - my day job happened :-)
It's time to meet #4 - EntrepreneurialPharmacist987
I was intrigued with Chris from the start. He told me he was a 32-year old pharmacist, with a keen interest in drug production and lifestyle enhancement. I didn’t know what he meant, but figured, I’d ask him later. We spoke on the phone about ten times before we met. I met him at a nice upscale restaurant and we hit it off immediately. I noticed group of about ten men sitting next to our table. He’d constantly wave at them and they stared repeatedly at our table. Perturbed and irritated, I asked him what was going on. He told me that in his line of work, he had to travel with an entourage, “a group of men who had his back.” What? I was confused. When did pharmacy work become so dangerous? He laughed at me and told me he would explain. I listened. Boy, did I get an earful.
He told me his job was to make people feel good. He described himself and an entrepreneur who specialized in pharmacy. “Oh” I said,………"so what you’re saying is that you own pharmacies?” He laughed and said “something like that.” I asked what he meant. He informed me that he was a drug dealer. Yes you heard. He was, as a put it, in the business of helping people relax. His said his impressive list of clientele included only the most elite doctors, judges, lawyers, cops and investment bankers in the city. People who wanted to chill out and relax after a long hard week of working. He sold only the best and sold his stuff to only upscale clients. He stated that he made over eight figures every year and had the best protection than any other drug dealer, and of course only dealt in cash. He told me I would be floored by his client list. Really? I told him to go no further.
Not only was he a thriving felon and criminal, but he also dealt only in cash, thus, making no contribution to our national economy. I obviously have no problem with what people choose as their careers, but I was bothered by Chris’s occupation. It was dangerous and I wanted no part of it. My Gosh, I could not believe I was sitting across from one of the biggest drug dealers in the city. What had my life become? How did I even get here? Here I was eating dinner with an unscrupulous “businessman” and I’m using the term businessman lightly, who sold drugs in his greedy quest to live a fabulous lifestyle. I was disgusted. He turned my stomach.
I must admit that a part of me felt relieved that he wasn’t one of those street dealers who sell drugs indiscriminately to everyone, including young innocent children. At least he sold his crap to folks who were old enough and sophisticated enough to know and understand what they were doing. Am I justifying his career choice? Nope!!! Am I judging him? Maybe. But as I excused myself from dinner and walked home, I felt comfortable walking out of his life forever. I reminded myself to “just say no!!!!” The date was so exhausting and and it gave me such a terrible headache that I had to go home and take some drugs - advil!!!
I will post Date # 5 later(I promise :-))
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
2007 Holiday Wishlist
Santa, please send me the following -
1. World Peace
2. A boyfriend for Jennifer Anniston
3. Spare time to write about Date #4
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Monday, December 3, 2007
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Today is World AIDS Day!!! - December 1, 2007
Knowledge is half the battle!!!
She is wearing her Ribbon. Where is yours?
Wear your Ribbon this Month in support of your fight against Aids!!!
Please be SAFE!!!!!
She is wearing her ribbon
Friday, November 30, 2007
Have You Tried Online Dating?? Poll
Stay and celebrate with me.......
Thanks to EVERYONE who voted!!! With 24 votes in, 50 percent of you say you have tried online dating!!! Uncork the wine, savor the chocolate and lets heal........ umm, laugh together :-):-)
Stay tuned for the next poll!!!
Singing the Dating-WTF Blues
Ok, so I'll file this one under WTF??? So y'all know I'm doing the online dating thing........yeah, I haven't given any more updates since date 3, but I will. I promise. Date 3 took too much out of me. If you read it you know that I'm still nursing that bruised black eye. Seriously, I am. It made me rethink some things, you know? Anyway, back to me singing the dating blues tonight.
So I winked at this guy on match.com. Yeah, for those of you who don't know, you can wink or send emails if someone catches your eye. Actually I always send emails. This was my first time winking. I don't like winking. When was the last time some dude walked by you and winked? When was the last time you winked to get some dude's attention? I guess for some of you it was last night at the club. For me, it was years ago in undergrad during a really boring chemistry class. Anyway as usual, I digress.
So I winked at this dude and he winked back. Okayyyyyyyyyyy...... So I emailed him and told him I liked his smile (yes, I know its an overused line, and yes, I'm going to keep using it!!!!). He emailed me back thanking me for the compliment saying, in pertinent part, "Thanks for your wink and email. You have a pretty smile too even though your lips are really thin, but I'm curious about one thing, how did you find me since you live in [East Coast] and I live in so far away in New York." Just for the record, its only an hour train ride away, but who's counting? You're wondering why this gives me the blues?
Maybe its because this is the 5th guy who has asked me how I found him. MFKR you're on the Worldwide Web. It's not a freagging gated community. You pay your cash, you get instant access. If you post your picture on the web with a corresponding profile looking for a date, someone is bound to find it, read it, and respond to it. An interested party might even have the ..........gasp......... the nerve......... to wink or send an email. Does he think he's hiding or something? I mean, does he not know that anyone with a keyboard can find you if they're looking for you? Dude, its not the witness protection program............you're not undercover. You're on an Internet dating site.
If you say that you're looking for someone within 5000 miles and I live an hour away from you, then don't tell me I live too far away from you. Do the math, ok. If you post your picture and a dating profile on the Worldwide Web and I respond, don't ask how I freaggin found you. Please!!! I know you're probably wondering what is wrong with her? Why is she so mad? She should be more pissed about her "thin lips" comment. Yeah, I know, I am pissed about that too.
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Monday, November 26, 2007
Getting Ready to attend a Soiree with your Sweetheart this Season?
You all know the deal. You have all these parties and/or dates coming up. You've met all these wonderful guys online and you're ready to hit the party circuit with your eye and arm candy. You've got the most fabulous dresses and shoes out there and now you may not be able to fit into them. Don't despair!!!
Health and lifestyle wellness coach A.J. Johnson has given Essence Magazine some fabulous tips for staying fit and healthy this holiday season. Apart from looking fabulous this holiday season, these are tips that will help you nourish your body and soul for the rest of your life!!!
Health and lifestyle wellness coach A.J. Johnson has given Essence Magazine some fabulous tips for staying fit and healthy this holiday season. Apart from looking fabulous this holiday season, these are tips that will help you nourish your body and soul for the rest of your life!!!
Read the Essence Magazine article below.
You know the routine: First, you chomp down on your mom’s signature apple pie; then sip a few cocktails at the holiday office party. And don't forget, the hours spent cooking when you should be pumping iron at the gym. “It’s definitely a difficult time of year. You’re trying to squeeze into cute dresses, but there’s cookies and egg nog everywhere,” says wellness guru A.J. Johnson, whose celebrity clients include Beyoncé, Michelle Williams, Kelly Rowland, Gabrielle Union, Boris Kodjoe and Nicole Ari Parker. “Still, it’s not a time to make excuses. You should plan instead of panic.” Here, Johnson shares her best secrets for having a happy holiday without it all going to your waist.
#1 Do Some Prep Work
“Commit to making a plan. The better the plan, the healthier the holiday,” says Johnson who has a ‘no excuses’ philosophy when it comes to wellness. Need to do holiday shopping during your normal workout time? Figure out when you’ll make it up or carry your goods instead of pushing them around in a cart so shopping becomes a workout. If you know that you’re going to indulge a bit at an office potluck, cut a few calories from other meals to make up for it.
#2 Fix Yourself A Plate—At Home
“If you’re going to a holiday dinner someplace else, eat a little something before you go so you’re not starving and likely to overeat when you get there,” advises Johnson. This is also a great way to make sure you’re eating healthy because you can pick the ingredients of your own dishes at home, even when we’re talking about desserts.. “When you’re making holiday cakes and pies, I’d rather people use honey, molasses, brown sugar, or even fresh fruit juice” suggests Johnson. “Natural sugar will burn off faster than chemically processed sugars.”
#3 Go Ahead, Have a Taste!
“A taste isn’t bad. You can have a taste of mac-and-cheese, but it shouldn’t become a side. It should be a tasty treat,” explains Johnson. So if the sweet potatoes or mac-and-cheese are making your mouth water, give in. But after your spoonful of banana pudding or forkful of pumpkin pie, put that utensil down and catch up with the cousin you haven’t seen in a year, or sit down and play a game with your nephew. By paying attention to portions, you’ll get to have your cake and eat it too without suffering the consequences.
#4 Avoid Eater’s Remorse
“Instead of saying, ‘I shouldn’t have eaten that,’ say ‘I want it, I’m going to eat it, and I’ll have work to do later for it,’” advises Johnson. “If I say I can’t pass up that red velvet cake, I know that means I have to do an extra 30 minutes on the treadmill or do an extra lap at the mall." So indulge, but have a plan of attack when it comes to blasting those extra calories that you’ve consumed.
#5 Shift The Focus Away From Food
“We make the excuse that Thanksgiving is about the dinner,” says Johnson, “but Thanksgiving can be about organizing the family touch-football game, group twister or everyone taking a walk together.” Try introducing new traditions to your holiday get-togethers that get your family moving—and burning calories. That way you all benefit in the end.
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Still looking for gifts for your Sweetheart????
Check out CyberMonday!!!
Most of us have heard of Black Friday, but I polled 11 people today who haven't heard of Cyber Monday. Cyber Monday is the Monday after Thanksgiving and is considered the 12th biggest online shopping day of the year.
CLICK HERE for the biggest Cyber Monday deal page for this year!!!
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and hundreds more. Don't forget to read Sassy's online shopping tips before you start click shopping!!!
Friday, November 23, 2007
Thinking of Going to the Spa with your sweetheart?
You're back from spending thanksgiving with your sweetheart's family. You're exhausted from "pretending" and "being on your best behaviour" all weekend. You'll gag if you had to hug one more person or taste another darned pumpkin pie.
You'll live a happy life if you never have to hear your "future mother-in-law's" voice one more time. You cringe just thinking about the upcoming holidays, especially since your "future mother-in-law" just invited you to spend the holidays with the "family".............. and your sweetie politely accepted on your behalf...........
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!
You're dying for some rejuvenation. Ahhhhhhhh, the spa......................... Nope!!! Just head to the shower. Yes, the Shower..........................
CLICK HERE for the most luxurious and relaxing shower of your life. When you're done, you'll gladly call your "future mother-in-law" to tell her you can't wait to see her in three weeks!!! You can thank me later.................. :-)
Thursday, November 22, 2007
Private Practice - Cooper returns to online dating
If you watch this show and haven't seen today's episode yet, stop reading now. I don't want to ruin it for you!!!I don't watch tv......... ok, i do, but only for law and order reruns. Who doesn't? Tonight I have the luxury of watching televion - not late night television, but real-time tv. Primetime. It's my second time watching the show. The first time I only saw the last 25 minutes of the show.
My sister called me tonight instructing me to watch the show because I'm into "online dating and all." I'm watching it now.........looks cool. Yes, I do admit I'm into online dating. You're on this blog, aren't you? The focus of tonight's episode is, among other things, about Cooper's (one of the main characters [i'm guessing]) return to online dating. I'm trying my best to follow............ I checked out ABC's homepage and here's the download on Cooper ----
"The center's resident pediatrician is Dr. Cooper Freedman, whose success in his profession belies his rocky personal life. He's a serial internet dater who is always attracted to the wrong woman. Most dates end badly for him; some even end in petty or grand theft.
Cooper finds solace and counsel in his closest friend, co-op psychiatrist Dr. Violet Turner - but she's no luckier in love. Able to deftly advise her patients in their relationships, she's intense, determined and unwilling to let outsiders see the obvious cracks in her veneer. Inside, Violet is crumbling after her recent breakup with an ex who has already moved on and married."
Ok, so now I get it. He's serial internet dater. I see my sister's point. I can totally identify with Cooper. I've been watching for ten minutes now and I haven't seen Cooper yet. Ok, I'll head over to ABC's website and get his mugshot........oh ok, its Paul Adelstein from Memoirs of a Geisha (if you saw the movie......if not, then he was also in Be Cool....... you didn't see that one either? dangit...........ok he was in collateral with tom crusie.....stop reading now if you didn't see that one either). Here's his mug.........
It's 9.16 and Cooper is finally online. He's reading online profiles now.......... Apparently some chick called "canyouhandleme?" caught his eye. The interesting thing is that I've seen several guys on match.com with that screenname too. You look at their pictures and all you're thinking is "seriously, dude, i don't want to get near you-----forget handling you--------yuck!!" Oh, enough about me - back to Cooper. Well, its not my fault. The Cooper scene lasted half a second. I'm assuming he'll get actual face time at some point during this hour. If the show is centered on his return to online dating, I'm not sitting here wasting my time breathlessly hanging on just waiting for some random hookup during the last 30 seconds as a prelude to next week's episode. I'll be at work next week. Don't freaggin tease me tonight. Still on commercial interlude............
Oh wait, they're back and Cooper's on his date. They didn't show it but one of the other residents just mentioned it in passing. Why didn't they show us that part? Oooooooooo Dreamboat Tim Daly is on the show too. He looks really awesome for a dude in his 50s (hence the dreamboat tag). Oh Cooper's now at the bar. Might be an awkward run-in with some chick he actually knows. The date turned out to be some gal he apparently knows..........she bolted on him. I guess he wasn't too impressive the last time they met............ha!!! Apparently there's a typhoid fever outbreak at some church and in other show news, a teenage girl had a baby. Still no Cooper.
Back from commercial interlude. No Cooper, but I'm loving this show. Amy Brenneman from Judging Amy and Taye Diggs are also on the show, and so is Dr Addison from Grey's Anatomy (i regret to say I've never seen an episode of GA). There are other fine actors and actresses but I don't have time to list them all. I think there might be a "thing" between Daly's character and Dr. Addison. Nothing related to online dating though. Still no Cooper and now another commercial interlude. I do admit that I'm loving the show so far. I'm slightly less irritated about the internet dating angle though. It's only 9.38 so I'm still hopeful. And if you're thinking I'm obsessed with this internet dating thing, you're so wrong. I just enjoy the entertainment aspect of it.
That reminds me. There are several residents on match.com and other dating sites too. Back from the interlude and the teenager's baby is getting prime facetime. Cooper is finally on. I didn't get his last exchange, but it had something to do with "canyouhandleme." And then there's some guy with a foot fetish who ended up in the hospital because he stuck a pair of shoes up his *&^. Yep, his (*&. I won't even go there. He had a date with Addison.....OMG, he put Addison's shoes in "his trunk." Apparently its a place where you shove things you steal from others in an anatomical kind of way-his ^&%. Sweet Mercy!!! Pass me the smelling salts!!!
Still no Cooper and his online date. But everything else about the show is great!! The nun in the church died from Typhoid fever. Commercial Interlude. Back on now. Oh wait, now I'm confused............I guess cuz I don't watch the show, but it appears that "canyouhandleme"-the chick who bolted -- is actually one of Cooper's colleagues.............That explains it!!!! LOL!!!
Oh, here's the biggie - The nun got the Typhoid fever from the Priest........................ and no, its not what you're thinking - even though he snuck into the convent every night to see her-----------------TO cook!!!! I know, I know. You're dissappointed..................what were you expecting?
Awwwwwwwwwww............... the teenager and her mom came to get the baby. Show's over now. Oh wait, Cooper just invited "canyouhandleme?" out for a drink........................ Last shot of the show now and guess what??? Cooper appears to be handling "it" quite fine and they didn't even go get that drink :-)!!!!!!
THANK YOU!!!!
Happy Thanksgiving to ALL!!! Enjoy the holidays!!!If you're like most Americans, you will be doing a lot of your holiday shopping this [black]Friday. Most people will wake up super early to hit the stores. Last year, I hit Target, Macy's, Bloomingdales and Bed Bath & Beyond for all their megasales. Too bad!! I was too late. This year, I"m shopping...........you guessed it - ONLINE!! I'm sure I'm not alone. For myself and all those other super smart shoppers out there, here are few sassy online shopping tips from CNNMoney.com. Happy Clicking!!
Top Tips: Online shopping safety - By Gerri Willis, CNN
The online shopping season is expected to bring in almost $39 billion in sales this year. And online shopping is a great way to keep your spending in line. But when you let your fingers do the walking, you'll want to take some precautions.
1. Look for a lock
You are particularly vulnerable to identity thieves when you're sending out your credit card information. To make sure your Web site is safe, look for a picture of a closed lock in the browser window. If you see a broken lock or key that means security isn't operating at that time according to the American Bar Association.
When the Web page asks for your credit card information, the web address should begin with "https" instead of "http." Other sites will have a pop up box that indicates you are entering a secure area.
2. Know your privacy
Ever wonder why you get spam from marketers you never did business with? It's because sellers on the web are allowed to collect your name, address, information on what Web site pages you visit, which products you buy, and where you ship them.
The seller can also share the information with other companies or sell it to them. Result: more spam. It's a good idea to check the seller's privacy policy. This will tell you what info the seller is collecting, how it will be used - and most importantly, how you can opt out of having this info distributed. Check for the privacy policy under "legal terms" or "terms and conditions."
3. Use the card
You'll be better off using a credit card rather than a debit card if you're making purchases online. A lot of cards have a "zero liability limit" meaning that you won't be held responsible if there's a fraudulent charge to your card. Federal law also limits the amount you would owe to $50.
Some cards even let you create an online ID for one-time purchases. Bank of America's ShopSafe card lets you create a temporary number when you make an online purchase. This number links to your real credit card - and keeps your real card safe. Discover card also lets you shop online with secure online account numbers. Call your credit card issuer and find out if it offers a protection like that.
4. Be wary of e-mails
You may receive an e-mail that looks like its from the company. It may ask you for your personal information in order to "verify" accounts or "clear up" errors that have occurred.
Remember, legitimate businesses do not ask for social security numbers or bank account numbers. You shouldn't respond to these e-mails and don't click on the links they contain.
If you want to check with the company, type the address of the Web site into your own computer or call the company about any questions. You should also consider changing your password every 3 to 4 months to make sure it hasn't fallen into the wrong hands.
Black Friday shopping guide - Marshall Loeb, MarketWatch
NEW YORK (MarketWatch) -- Waking up early, pounding a cup of coffee and sprinting to the nearest mall has become a post-Thanksgiving tradition for many Americans bargain hunters. Not only does so-called Black Friday usher in the holiday shopping season, it also brings with it some of the best sales of the year.
But to get the most for your money, you would do well to heed the advice of The Motley Fool's "Pro-shopper" Dayana Yochim before hitting the stores:
Shop the night before. If you're looking for the cheapest prices on the "hottest" items, you may want to start your shopping online the night before. Why? A number of retail outlets post their Black Friday sales prices online on Thursday night, Yochim says. Snagging "must-have" items online in advance of the sales rush means you'll get the best price without having to worry about the store running out of the product you're after.
Search for coupon codes. If you're shopping online, be sure to take advantage of coupon codes. "If you're not, you're leaving money on the table," says Yochim. New to the world of coupon codes? Don't worry, it's easy. Just plug the name of the product you're looking for into your search engine along with the words "coupon code." If there is a coupon available, a link should appear, providing you with a discount code to plug in when you order online. You can also find deals on Web sites, such as Currentcodes.com, Couponcabin.com and Dealcoupon.com.
Research store return policies. A number of retailers are changing their return policies just for the holiday season, says Yochim, which means if you're not careful you could get stuck with some hefty fees for returns and exchanges. Stores' return policies are generally posted on their Web sites. You can also ask a clerk to help decode the fine print on the back of your receipt. But beware: many holiday employees are temporary and may not be clear on store policy.
Order must-have items early. If snagging the best deal is less important than making sure that you get your hands on this season's hottest toys, it's important to get a head-start on your shopping. Last year, retailers vastly overestimated the demand for a number of products and were forced to sell merchandise at bargain basement prices. To ensure this doesn't happen again, many stores are only stocking the bare minimum this holiday season, so supplies could run low, Yochim warns.
Beware of "sales." Just because something is on "sale," doesn't mean it's a good deal. So before you buy, do some retail recon. Go online and compare prices. "The more Web sites you visit to get an apples-to-apples comparison, the easier it will be to recognize a real deal," Yochim says. When you're ready to buy make sure you know exactly what's included in the purchase price or you may find yourself shelling out more for expensive "add-ons." Hint: If you're shopping in stores, bring hard-to-beat online offers to your local retailer and see if it will match the price.
Watch out for "warranties." Many salespeople make commissions off warranties, so if you're in the market for consumer electronics or appliances be prepared to get the hard sell. Yochim advises steering clear of warranties unless you're buying a product that hasn't been on the market long enough to have established reliability ratings. If you do opt for a warranty, you shouldn't be paying more than 20% of the product's purchase price, according to Consumer Reports.
Sweat the big stuff. If you don't have time to methodically search out the best deals for everything on your list, Yochim recommends concentrating your energy on big-ticket items, such as televisions and computers, where you can net the most significant savings.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Flying the Friendly Skies with your Sweetie this Holiday Season?
Intro - If you're like Miss "Almost Engaged," (from the comments section below) you're traveling this holiday season to meet your sweetheart's family for the first time (or second, or third, or whatever :-)). You're obviously a fabulous diva who could use some sassy tips on staying sane while navigating the friendly skies. Holiday travel can be stressful enough, add that to meeting the family for the first time and even a fab diva could break out in hives. If you're like me and traveling home alone, then these sassy tips still apply to you. "Almost Engaged," I'm going to weave your request for fabulous accessories into this post!!!
1. Plan Ahead - Book your trip in advance. Buy your airline tickets at least 21 days in advance of your scheduled travel date. Tickets cost significantly cheaper if booked in advance, leaving you more cash for those fabulous shoes you've been lusting after. Or if you're like me, leaving you more cash to spend on the dating site du jour!!!
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Do not wrap gifts - Last year, airport security unwrapped all my "pre-meticulously" wrapped presents to check the contents. I was so upset (for the wonderful store clerks who had painstakingly wrapped up all my gifts in the store). Remember that security comes before comfort and convenience these days. Alternatively pack some wrapping paper so that you can wrap the gifts when you arrive at your destination. Wrap the gifts in bubble wrap or other safety packing supplies. Don't forget you can always ship them ahead of your travel date so that you don't have to worry about it. They will be there waiting for you when you arrive (still fabulously wrapped). Instead of fighting with TSA at the airport you could be shopping at the airport or getting a wonderful massage (some airports offer those). Then you'll be all happy and relaxed when you get to your final destination. Another advantage is that shipping eliminates that "pissed off" feeling you get when the airport loses your luggage, especially if you have those "connecting flights from [insert frustrated adjective/place of choice]."
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Heed the Carry-on Rules - You know all those fabulous face, body lotions and colognes you've spent a ton of cash on, well you may have to throw those away if they are larger than 3 ounces. Before you pack, head to Bath and Body works or your store of choice for their travel size lotions. If you're not going to a fabulous hotel (where you can expect lotions and other hygiene products when you check in) make sure you bring them along with you (especially if you're not sure whether your host [a.k.a your sweetie's family] is adequately prepared for these sort of mini-emergencies. It's a real bummer to get to your destination without any lotions, oils, colognes or body hydration of choice.
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Every Diva Needs Fabulous Luggage (and pocketbook) - Use some of that cash you saved on airline tickets to buy you something sassy for your clothes and accessories. And for you "Almost Engaged," your luggage is an accessory. Trust me, it is!! You also want to carry a sassy pocketbook, sturdy enough to hold all your magazines, and gorgeous enough to be ogled!!!
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Check in online if your airline allows it. This eliminates all those "waiting-in long lines" moments (sorry, you still have to go through security though - [for your safety :-))!!
Finally, Please arrive early - Even though hanging out at the airport is not your cup of tea, it beats missing your flight!!! You want to have enough time to have a relaxing flight. Nothing sucks more than running to the gate on the other side of the airport with only 30 seconds to spare. You want to be as relaxed and fabulous as possible. Sassy Divas are never harried!!! Plus, all that stress of "nearly missing your flight" puts you in a "fighting, leave me the [&^%*] alone mood" with your sweetie.
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Pictures: Intro, Plan Ahead, Do not wrap Gifts, Heed the Carry-on Rules, Every Diva Needs Fabulous Luggage, Fabulous Pocketbook, Check in online if your airline allows it, Lines, Please arrive early, 1. Bangles, 2. Bangles, 3 Bangles, 4. Jewel Cuff Bracelet, 5. Hoop Earrings, 6. Quilted Cuff Bracelet, 7. Heart & Dove Necklace, 8. Wing Pendant Necklace, 9. Envelope Clutch, 10. Jeweled Clutch
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Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Response to Annon's Request - Appropriate Date Attire
Anonymous said...
wow. so ok i joined match.com and have my first official date Saturday night. any suggestions on what to wear? he wants me to pick the date. any date and outfit suggestions? thanks
November 17, 2007 3:42 AM
wow. so ok i joined match.com and have my first official date Saturday night. any suggestions on what to wear? he wants me to pick the date. any date and outfit suggestions? thanks
November 17, 2007 3:42 AM
Response
First, let me congratulate you on taking the leap into online dating!!!! How's match.com treating you? It's one of my favorite dating sites. Anywhoo, sorry for the delay in responding to your question. Hopefully your date was a fabulous success and there'll be a second date. What did you wear? Where did you go? Were you impressed? Did you have a blast? After I read your question, I decided to have some fun with my response and provide you five outfits never to wear and another five that will leave him fighting for more :-)................
Five Outfits Never to Wear to your Date (especially your first date with some dude you met online)!!!!!!
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I love Mary-Kate. How can you not, after watching Full House (twelve years ago and again this morning on the reruns --heeeheeeheee)? I respect her need to maintain her individuality from her twin sister. I respect her "hard working fabulously wealthy rass." I even bought a dress from her clothing line for my adorable niece. But why does she always feel the need to overwhelm me with her outfits. I completely understand that she is frugal (how else could she amass all her wealth, right?). But just because you are a frugal, hardworking billionaire does not mean you should skimp on material to cover your body. Invest in a good dress that flatters you. Seriously. And leave the hooker shoes home, please!!!
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I love Liv Tyler. I love her gorgeous lips (she's not Angelina Jolie or anything, but her dad is Steve Tyler). I even watched her in Jersey Girl with Ben Affleck (you thought it was Ben and Jen, didn't you? Nope, it was Liv). This outfit she is wearing is the complete opposite of the one Mary-Kate has on, but that doesn't make it any better. Trust me, you are not your grandmother. Burn this............and the shoes. Burn them. I'd rather send the message from Mary-Kate's dress than this one..........!!!
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Ok, should I even justify this one with an explanation about why you shouldn't wear either one of these outfits? I reiterate that I love the Olsen twins, especially after watching those reruns earlier today. They used to be so adorable. On occasion, Ashley is usually fab, notwithstanding a few flubs, here and there. Unless you are going to a costume ball with your date or a Halloween party, just don't wear this. Please. Halloween is far gone now so that takes care of that party. As for the costume ball, ask me for some recommendations when the time comes. You don't want to scare the heck out of your date looking like one of these. Plus, unless you're slightly into dominatrix you don't want to go there!!!
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Honestly, I don't even know where to start. I"m thinking about it, but there are no words for this crap. Seriously. Don't get me wrong. I love lil Kim. I have put my lighters up on occasion -actually, on multiple occasions. I rooted for her when she went to prison. I was happy for her when she got out. I kinda lost track of her progress after she started to resemble Michael Jackson's second cousin (post thriller Michael - probably the "you know who's bad" Michael). If you go out to your date dressed like this, don't be surprised if he calls you Trixie and asks to see that "dollar bill" tattoo on your inner thigh. Don't say I didn't warn you. You know what bothers me (among several bothers) - the fact that she has that "i know i look hot" smirk on that contraption that used to be her face. That said, girl, "put your lighters up"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Say it with me - WTF?????? Yes. WTF??? As you can see, there is nothing about this picture you want to repeat. No words can capture the "DON'T DO THIS" caption. So, just don't!!!! You know, this is exactly the reason why Dave (yes Dave) is going to leave Posh for me. She's too posh to wear the dress so she'll just attach it to her neck. I can't wait to be that fabulous. But again, that's a great Halloween outfit. And honestly, I don't know how you can can even justify that. Sporty looks like she's 13 years late for a job interview on wall street and the other three look like they're headed to the prom. Don't!!!!
NOW - Here are the Five fabulous outfits that will make you fab, and your date, grateful!!!!
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I"m definitely a jean girl. They are fabulous with heels and sexy tops, and they never go out of style!!!
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A dress that skims your figure and flatters your shape is always in style!!!
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A nice pair of tailored pants and fabulous top make the perfect outfit. You still look sexy and classy, and you can come straight from work without rushing home to change!!!!!
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If you're all about the glamor because you're heading to your date's holiday party, then congrats for making the "holiday party date cut," and try one of these fab outfits!!!!
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If you're tied up at work and can only spare time for a "lunch time-only coffee break date," then stay fab in these career-date outfits!!!!
Of course, don't forget to accessorize. A fabulous outfit is never complete without fab accessories. Be confident and be yourself. Be careful. Remember, all you know about this dude is whatever "information" you read on his online dating profile and any other lies, ooops, i meant, self-serving statements he's given you during one of your marathon phone call sessions.
It's just a date!!!! Have fun and be fabulous!!!
If none of these outfits in this post appeal to you, then look in your closet and wear what flatters you, or head over to your BFF's closet and borrow her "i'm too fabulous for his **it" outfit. If none of that works, check out Victoria's Secret, Nordstrom, Macy's, Frederick's of Hollywood, Kitson, or any of your favorite stores or boutiques.
And you can always hit Forever 21 (my very fabulous and stylish girlfriend buys the most fashionable, chic outfits and accessories from this fab store) for "wallet-friendly" variations of those fabulously expensive outfits you've seen in US Magazine or Life & Style Weekly!!!!
If all else fails check out TilShop for a plethora of ideas!!!
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Know thyself - What works for me may not work for my sister
I wasn't going to blog today, but I need the distraction. Well, the truth is that in the last fifteen minutes, I have seen adverts for both perfectmatch.com and eharmony.com. Oh, now I'm watching a chemistry.com advert. Apparently, eharmony has rejected another "good" person.
I am currently having a debate with two of my sisters. One of them thinks online dating is for psychos and the other hates online dating because yahoo personals did not work for her. The one who thinks online dating is for psychos is 33 and has been happily stuck, um, i meant attached to her boyfriend's hip for the last five years. She's in couple "lalaland" so her opinions hold little weight in this debate.
Now to my other sister. She tried yahoo personals and hated it. She allegedly met several cheap losers who were raised in loserville. They range from stalkers to 45 year old men who still live at home.
I have told both of them that online dating does not suck. I'll reiterate that it is like any other form of dating. You just have to know what works for you. Just because yahoo personals worked for my sister's best friend's brother's cousin doesn't mean it will work for her. My sister is level headed, smart, engaging, ready to be married, ready to have children, looking only for a religious christian man who is like-minded, smart, upward-bound (don't know what she means), handsome, at least 6 feet tall, preferably with dimples, and comes from a strong loving family.
Luckily for her it's almost Christmas and Santa is taking requests. Ha ha ha!!!
Seriously, she needs to recognize that her list of "what he should look like or sound like" is very very rigid. I forgot to add that this man must also look like denzel and be either an architect, doctor, lawyer or engineer. Nothing else. She's a doctor (not that it matters). I guess when your ex is a divorced father of 5 who is still trying to find himself you need a list like hers (but i'm not judging. i'm the one whose third online date landed her a black eye and sixteen stitches, courtesy of manabouttown69's girlfriend. My eyes still twitch each time I think about it, but I digress).
Sounds to me like she needs to be her laptop out of her briefcase and log on to eharmony.com and start working on that profile questionnaire to see who she matches up with on those 29 dimensions.
If Dr. Warren is to be believed, her match is waiting to pledge his unfaltering love to her on eharmony. She will be able to find her real true love. If this doesn't work, then there's the plethora of other sites out there like match, perfectmatch, truematch, lavalife, plenty of fish, cheating husbands, roommates for hire--- you get the gist.
Well, I think I've won her over. She's logged on to eharmony and is completing her profile. I'll keep you posted.
I love my sister and I think she should be patient................................... Love will find her when she least expects it. I predict that pretty soon she'll be stuck, i mean, attached to some guy's hip like my other sister.
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Friday, November 16, 2007
Response to 19 y.o. Annon engaged to 46 y.o. man
Anonymous said...
I think that if you are patient you will find the one. I assume these dates are some kind of experiment for your date. I tried eharmony for a while but it did not work. Then i tried yahoo personals. I met my fiance on match.com eight months ago. We knew we loved each other from the day we met. he told me he loved me five days after we met. i was scared but I knew in my heart of hearts that he was the one for me. we got engaged six months after we met. my family still things we met at the mall. i am 19 and he is 46. he has two beautiful daughters and 1 son. I dont think i want to have children so i am happy. all i am saying is that online dating is not bad. it is not a joke if you take it seriously and it really works. there are thousands of online sites for all kinds of true love and fetishes. I met my man of my dreams. you will too. goodluck with your dates. i dont think these guys will appreciate the fact that you are making fun of them though. Any suggestions for wedding songs? let us know when you find the one. dont knock it until you try it.
October 19, 2007 1:09 PM
I think that if you are patient you will find the one. I assume these dates are some kind of experiment for your date. I tried eharmony for a while but it did not work. Then i tried yahoo personals. I met my fiance on match.com eight months ago. We knew we loved each other from the day we met. he told me he loved me five days after we met. i was scared but I knew in my heart of hearts that he was the one for me. we got engaged six months after we met. my family still things we met at the mall. i am 19 and he is 46. he has two beautiful daughters and 1 son. I dont think i want to have children so i am happy. all i am saying is that online dating is not bad. it is not a joke if you take it seriously and it really works. there are thousands of online sites for all kinds of true love and fetishes. I met my man of my dreams. you will too. goodluck with your dates. i dont think these guys will appreciate the fact that you are making fun of them though. Any suggestions for wedding songs? let us know when you find the one. dont knock it until you try it.
October 19, 2007 1:09 PM
Anonymous said...
to the lady who is 19 and dating the 46 year old. are you crazy? he has three kids and he is twice your age. his kids are probably your age. seriously, what are you thinkingg? and you told your family you met at the mall? why would a 46 year old pervert go for that? you need to finish college if you are in school and date someone kid your age. c'mon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sassy, surely you cannot approve of this? wedding songs? how about you go finish your homework. c'mon.
Sassy said...
i will respond to both comments in the next post. if you guys have google accounts/blogs, why don't you sign on with those so that i can check out your sites too. Thanks for stopping by.
October 20, 2007 9:27 AM
My Response
My response to the 19 year old chica is to make sure she knows what she's getting into. I get the whole "i love him" part, but seriously, he is much much older than you. I understand that you don't think you want children. You are only 19 and you may change your mind about that down the road. Look at the big picture - when you're 59, he'll be 86. Are you ready to commit to that kind of relationship? The age difference doesn't matter as much right now, but in 40 years you'll either be kicking yourself in the shin or showering your man with love and affection.
I can't predict the future, but if you believe this is what you truly want to do, then hey, no one can stop you. Ask yourself why you're lying to your family about where you met? Assess your relationship with his children. Think about where you see yourself in 40 years. Traveling to some exotic locale with the man you love to celebrate your retirement or looking through nursing home brochures for the man you love. Do you!! But be true to yourself. If you do decide to go ahead with this marriage, here are the wedding songs you requested. There are thousands more available at your fingertips on the internet. Good Luck with whatever you decide to do!!!
1. "A Whole New World" (Peabo Bryson & Regina Belle)
2. "As Time Goes By" (from Casablanca)
3. "At Last" (Etta James)
4. "Because You Loved Me" (Celine Dion)
5. "Can You Feel the Love Tonight" (Elton John)
6. "Can't Help Falling In Love" (Elvis Presley)
7. "Chances Are" (Johnny Mathis)
8. "Close To You" (The Carpenters)
9. "Could I Have This Dance?" (Anne Murray)
10. "Dream A Little Dream" (Mamas & the Papas)
11. "Embraceable You" (Nat King Cole)
12. "Endless Love" (Diana Ross & Lionel Richie)
13. "Fascination" (Jane Morgan)
14. "Fever" (Peggy Lee)
15. "Forever and Ever, Amen" (Randy Travis)
16. "Forever" (Kenny Loggins)
17. "From This Moment" (Shania Twain & Brian White)
18. "Grow Old With Me" (Mary Chapin Carpenter)
19. "Here And Now" (Luther Vandross)
20. "I Finally Found Someone" (Barbra Streisand & Bryan Adams)
21. "I Only Have Eyes For You" (The Flamingos)
22. "I Will" (The Beatles)
23. "If I Loved You" (from Carousel)
24. "In My Life" (The Beatles)
25. "It Had To Be You" (Harry Connick, Jr.)
26. "Lady In Red" (Chris DeBurgh)
27. "Love Theme To Romeo & Juliet" (from Zeffirelli's Romeo and Juliet)
28. "Marry Me" (Neil Diamond & Buffy Lawson)
29. "One Moment In Time" (Whitney Houston)
30. "Our Love Is Here To Stay" (Billie Holiday)
31. "So This Is Love" (James Ingram)
32. "Some Enchanted Evening" (from South Pacific)
33. "Something" (The Beatles)
34. "Somewhere" (from West Side Story)
35. "The Best Is Yet To Come" (Frank Sinatra)
36. "The Rose" (Bette Midler)
37. "Tonight I Celebrate My Love For You" (Roberta Flack & Peabo Bryson)
38. "True" (Spandau Ballet)
39. "Unforgettable" (Nat King Cole)
40. "Up Where We Belong" (Joe Cocker & Jennifer Warrens)
41. "Wedding Song (There Is Love)" (Captain & Tennille)
42. "Wedding Song (There is Love)" (Petula Clark)
43. "We've Got Tonight" (Bob Seger)
44. "We've Only Just Begun" (The Carpenters)
45. "When I Fall In Love" (Nat King Cole)
46. "Will You Marry Me?" (Vonda Shepard)
47. "Woman" (John Lennon)
48. "Wonderful World" (Louis Armstrong)
49. "You Are So Beautiful" (Joe Cocker)
50. "Your Song" (Elton John)
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Holiday Romantic Getaways for you and your Sweetheart
You and your online match have sent 100 emails, fallen for each other and can't wait to take your first romantic vacation this holiday season - Santa Sassy is at your service!!!!!
1. Honolulu, Hawaii - Hilton Hawaiian Village
Romantic Vacation Package: Island Romance
Accommodations in the luxurious Ali'i Tower
Lei greeting and escort to room at check-in
Champagne and chocolate-covered strawberries welcome amenity
One breakfast for two in bed
50-minute Hawaiian lomi lomi for two at Mandara Spa
5-course chef tasting menu for two at Bali by the Sea with three wine pairings
Rate: Starts at $495 per night.
Valid: Through December 26. 2007.
2. St Thomas, USVI - Frenchman's Reef & Morning Star Marriott Beach Resort
Romantic Vacation Package: If The Shoe Fits
Two pairs of handmade, leather Zora sandals
Unlimited water ferry tickets from the resort to Zora’s store in downtown Charlotte Amalie
Daily buffet breakfast for two
Two pedicures to soothe weary shopping feet
Two shopping tote bags
Resort welcome gift
Welcome drinks upon arrival
Rate: Starts at $363 per double occupancy room, per night.
3. Dominican Republic - Sivory Punta Cana
Romantic Vacation Getaway Package: Caribbean Romance
Three nights in an ocean view Deluxe Jr. Suite; Complimentary private helicopter arrival transfer from Punta Cana International Airport
Private beach check-in with chilled towel service and Champagne
Daily American breakfast
Caviar hors d'oeuvres and a bottle of Champagne upon arrival
One couple spa treatment
Candlelit dinner on the beach
Daily bed turn down with chocolate dipped fruits
Rate: $275 per person; Valid: through December 21, 2007.
4. Montego Bay, Jamaica - Half Moon
Romantic Vacation Getaway Package: Romantic Rendezvous
Luxurious accommodations
Breakfast, lunch and dinner
Drinks at hotel bars
One "heaven for two" spa treatment - lovers fantasy
Private car round trip airport transfers
Welcome gift in room upon arrival
Bottle of Champagne
Private dinner for two
One of Jamaica's most enduring luxury resorts, Half Moon is set on a well-protected crescent of beach.
Rate: Ranges from $510 nightly for a superior room up to $1250 for a spa suite.
Valid: Through December 14, 2007.
5. San Ignacio, Cayo, Belize - Five Sisters Lodge
Romantic Vacation Getaway Package: Honeymoon Package
Four nights’ accommodations
All meals
Roundtrip transportation between the international airport in Belize City and the resort
Chilled champagne and aromatic candles
Choice of three tours including visiting ancient Maya sites and caves, horseback riding through the jungle, swimming by waterfalls or canoeing the river.
The thatched-roof Honeymoon Villa has a private bath, private verandah, and hammocks.
Guests awaken to the sound of running water from the falls, the Privassion River and the tropical birds that inhabit the Belizean rainforest.
Rate: $850 per person, including hotel taxes, service charge, sales taxes and entrance fees to all parks.
Valid: Ongoing.
6. Miami, FL - Eden Roc
Romantic Vacation Getaway Deal: “Unforgettable” Getaway
Two-night stay in Nat King Cole Suite Dinner and champagne in-room with serenade of NKC’s tunes or martinis at Harry’s American Bar and dinner at Harry’s Grille
Transfers and tickets to music performance at TOPAS (during season) or admission to local Jazz club Day rental of cabanas for pool or beach time
Couples massage (in-room or cabanas); Trip to local art gallery with portrait painter consultation
In-room gift of Nat King Cole’s greatest hits CD The Eden Roc Resort and Spa is an oceanfront hotel overlooking Miami Beach that was built by renowned architect Morris Lapidus and opened in 1956. Rate: $2,837 for two, taxes not included.Valid: Ongoing.
7. New York, NY - Soho Grand
Romantic Vacation Getaway Package: Seduction in Soho
Hotel Picture
Champagne toast upon arrival
Romantic turndown service and room setup with scented bath confetti, chocolates, rose petals and votive candles
Chocolate-covered strawberries
2 complimentary cocktails in the lounge
Breakfast in bed for 2 from room service
Weekend itinerary with exclusive shopping discounts
Personal concierge service
Rate: $407 per night.
Valid: through December 2007.
Click Here to view more Romantic Getaways for this holiday Season!! Cheers!!!
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Holiday Gifts for for Your Sweetheart
2007 was a fabulous year for you!!! You've met the man or woman of your dreams. Now that the holiday season is looming, where do you find the perfect gift? Or treat yourself------Here are a few ideas........
Gifts for HER - Deck the halls with jewelry, gift baskets, spa certificates and love!!!!
1. Relaxing Spa Packages for Two 
Spa Finder Gift Certificates are the perfect gift for any occasion. Flexible and convenient, they'll make any recipient happy. They arrive in elegant packaging and are accepted at over 3,800 spas worldwide, you will truly be giving the Worldwide Gift of Spa.
2. Body Gift Sets by Bliss
What it is:A bevy of body beautification bestsellers from Bliss.What else you need to know: Give the gift of spaaah this holiday. This flurry of our favorite formulas will help you turn any snow day into a 'glow' day (and they rock warm weather, too).Set includes a 2.5 oz Lemon + Sage Body Butter, 4 oz Vanilla + Bergamot Body Buff, 1 oz High Intensity Hand Cream, 1 oz Aloe Leaf + Peppermint...
3. Pink Ribbon Necklaces 
This graceful pendant pays silent tribute to the fight against breast cancer. The design, inspired by the American Cancer Society's pink ribbon logo, features a pink freshwater pearl and diamond accents in a 14K rose gold setting. Plus, it can be worn as a lapel pin. Metal: 14K gold Metal Color: Rose Pearl Type: Pink Pearl Size: 6.5-7mm Stones: Diamond accents ...
4.Gorgeous African Jewelry 
14 Kt. goldfill jewelry with assorted malachite, turquoise, pyrite, African jade, smoky quartz and ruby zoisite stones. Set of three bracelets each featuring malachite, turquoise and pyrite stones.
5. Murano Glass & Sterling Silver Rings 
Put this gorgeous ring on and let your unmistakable sense of taste and style shine through, or give them as a present and bring the light of joy to others. Made in precious Murano Glass and tarnish proof Sterling Silver, this ring is part of the Vanita' line of Masini Gioielli, a symbol of quality and prestige since 1946. An 18K plate with the Masini logo is placed on one side. Made in Italy.
6. Fabulous Juicy Couture Jewelry 
Goldtone cocktail ring with oversized crystal heart-shaped stone. Bow accent on side with clear crystal accents.
7. Fabulous Gift Baskets 
Luxurious Gift Baskets featuring everything the woman in your life is looking for this holiday season - beauty, pampering, relaxation, fun. Put a smile on her face!!
8. Venetian glass necklace 
Light up [her] outfit with this exquisite piece. Multi-color necklace made of Venetian glass, and gold-plated. Made in Italy by Antica Murrina.
9. Cashmere Robe 
No other material feels as warm, comfortable and luxurious as cashmere. Falling generously to mid-calf, our 100% cashmere robe drapes elegantly around the neck and shoulders.
10. Over-the-knee stretch boot 
A risqué design buckles up and goes into overdrive. Imported patent polyurethane or polyester/spandex.
3 1/4" heel.
11. Chocolate Lover's Petits Fours 
Imagine tiny, pop-in-your-mouth cakes in flavors like Rocky Road, Peanut Butter and Chocolate Toffee. Well, here they are. Each has creme between moist layers of chocolate cake. They are hand dipped in chocolate creme frosting and hand decorated. A great hostess gift, they arrive in a beautiful gift box. 24 count, net wt 10 oz.
12. Wonderful Ornament Gift Sets 
Using a technique that has been in use since the 13th century, artisans in Egypt hand-blow these traditional glass ornaments, making each a one-of-a-kind creation. Varying in size and shape, they are hand-painted in subtle, translucent hues that reflect light and are then accented with 24k gold. Hang them in a sunny window for year-round appreciation or keep them as beautiful holiday heirlooms....
Gifts for Him - Deck the halls with ties, belts and love!!!
1. Cashmere pinstripe scarf 
Subtlety and refinement of details are what it takes for a man's attire to really make a statement. This soft 100% cashmere scarf will get his winter warming done with elegance and sophistication.
2. Sterling seal necklaces 
Ancient. Mystical. Possessed of deep emotion and beautiful design. A very cool, different way to convey love and friendship…with a fabulous kick of runway style.
3. Ballpark cuff links 
These aren't just cuff links—they're a piece of baseball history. Crafted of salvaged seats from America's most famous and beloved stadiums, these cuff links are one of a kind. Coated in the original paint of the stadium seat colors, each cuff link boasts a deep patina collected from decades of home openers, double-headers and grand-slam ovations. Quantities are limited, catch them while you can.
4. The art of shaving kit 
Doesn't he deserve to experience the most clean, comfortable shave possible? Now he can have it on a daily basis. Designed by skincare experts, this deluxe kit combines the highest quality botanical ingredients and 100% pure essential oils to ensure that his skin stays soft, protected and rejuvenated—before, during and after every shave. The sandlewood-scented products are individually wrapped and arrive in a striped designer gift box.
5. Monogrammable oval stud cuff links 
When a man is dressed to the nines, he doesn't need to make a fuss with his cuffs.
6. Cigar lover's kit 
This modern ashtray-in-a-box is smartly self-contained. When they're finished, they just slide the tray out of sight.
7. Braided leather bracelet 
With its warm tones and rich texture, braided leather is synonymous with both English equestrian style and American West traditions. New York jewelry designer Catherine M. Zadeh designed this bracelet to have a masculine elegance with a modern edge.
8. Hidden message tag necklace 
Engrave a message of love, hope or encouragement—a secret shared only by you and the wearer. Substantial pendant hangs from a chain that's slightly oxidized for a vintage, rough-hewn look.
9. Classic men's swiss watch 
Looks and brains are not mutually exclusive—and these watches prove it. The timepieces feature Swiss quartz movement, scratch-resistant crystal faces, and date and military-time display with luminous hands and markers. Offered in two different models: Terragraph Silver or Mountaineer Charcoal.
10. Brown leather excursion travel case 
Classic accessories never go out of style and even get better with age. Our travel case is made of leather with modern metal hardware and a durable cotton-canvas lining.
Online Dating Stigma? Still around or dissipated??
A date by any other name is still a date!!!!
I met a lady today who informed me that online dating is for boring, socially awkward, weird losers. Obviously, as a loyal online dater I completely dissagree. For me, online dating is a convenient form of dating. I work long hours and don't have the time to go to bars, clubs, bookstores, grocery stores, basketball games, antique markets, gyms and the plethora of other "date-meeting" avenues. I attend church regularly, but the men there are all married or the same age as my grandfather.
I know several women and men who are at the top of their social game who turn to online dating because it is easy and convenient. They get the opportunity to date successful, smart, charismatic individuals who, like themselves, are not losers, but busy. Of course, there is still that stigma of meeting online. Several of my friends, especially the male friends, tend to fib a little when introducing their date to others - they claim to have met anywhere but online. So what is it about the internet that brings on this feeling of "should/can i tell?" when it comes to online dating.
We can spend hours crusing for the items on ebay and proudly announce to the world that we shop on ebay, but we are ashamed to say we date online. I find it interesting and perturbing. I am proud to be an online dater. I have met wonderful men online. I have had some interesting and memorable relationships with some of these men. Does online dating turn us into serial daters? I don't think so. I don't approach it any differently than I would if I met the dude in a library or at a party.
I am able to spend weeks getting to know these men via emails and sometimes phone calls. I learn things about them I wouldn't necessarily learn if I met them at a bar. Of course, nothing beats meeting in person - a guy who appears charming online may be a "douchebag" when you meet in person, but its a risk worth taking.
Trust me, meeting your man or woman in cyberspace should not make you feel socially inferior. Don't pay any attention to those friends of yours who roll their eyes or make jokes about your cyberlove. This could be the man or woman of your dreams. Are you really going to let someone's definition of "traditional" really derail your love life? I hope not. If you are, get a backbone already!!!!
You're not an internet geek, loser or socially awkward person. You're just a normal person searching for love. If you're lucky to find it, great. If not, it will find you somehow. Ignore the misconceptions, the stereotyping, the branding, the labels and just live your life. You only have one!!!
So next time someone asks why you're online, ask Why Not? And if you're like me, you'll check out some cute dude on the metro and instantly wonder if you match on 29 dimensions ..........yes, that online dating stuff spills into the real world.
I met a lady today who informed me that online dating is for boring, socially awkward, weird losers. Obviously, as a loyal online dater I completely dissagree. For me, online dating is a convenient form of dating. I work long hours and don't have the time to go to bars, clubs, bookstores, grocery stores, basketball games, antique markets, gyms and the plethora of other "date-meeting" avenues. I attend church regularly, but the men there are all married or the same age as my grandfather.
I know several women and men who are at the top of their social game who turn to online dating because it is easy and convenient. They get the opportunity to date successful, smart, charismatic individuals who, like themselves, are not losers, but busy. Of course, there is still that stigma of meeting online. Several of my friends, especially the male friends, tend to fib a little when introducing their date to others - they claim to have met anywhere but online. So what is it about the internet that brings on this feeling of "should/can i tell?" when it comes to online dating.
We can spend hours crusing for the items on ebay and proudly announce to the world that we shop on ebay, but we are ashamed to say we date online. I find it interesting and perturbing. I am proud to be an online dater. I have met wonderful men online. I have had some interesting and memorable relationships with some of these men. Does online dating turn us into serial daters? I don't think so. I don't approach it any differently than I would if I met the dude in a library or at a party.
I am able to spend weeks getting to know these men via emails and sometimes phone calls. I learn things about them I wouldn't necessarily learn if I met them at a bar. Of course, nothing beats meeting in person - a guy who appears charming online may be a "douchebag" when you meet in person, but its a risk worth taking.
Trust me, meeting your man or woman in cyberspace should not make you feel socially inferior. Don't pay any attention to those friends of yours who roll their eyes or make jokes about your cyberlove. This could be the man or woman of your dreams. Are you really going to let someone's definition of "traditional" really derail your love life? I hope not. If you are, get a backbone already!!!!
You're not an internet geek, loser or socially awkward person. You're just a normal person searching for love. If you're lucky to find it, great. If not, it will find you somehow. Ignore the misconceptions, the stereotyping, the branding, the labels and just live your life. You only have one!!!
So next time someone asks why you're online, ask Why Not? And if you're like me, you'll check out some cute dude on the metro and instantly wonder if you match on 29 dimensions ..........yes, that online dating stuff spills into the real world.
Luxury Dessert for Your Next Date
Obviously you'd have to be on a date with one of the guys from wealthymen.com to afford this dessert.
The AP (on Thursday, November 8, 2007) reported the following story -
NEW YORK - This is one rich cup of haute chocolate:
A New York eatery is offering a US$25,000 dessert bulging with top-grade cocoa, edible gold and shavings of a luxury truffle. The Frrrozen Haute Chocolate was declared the most expensive dessert in the world on Wednesday by the Guinness World Records. The dessert is a frozen, slushy mix of cocoas from 14 countries, milk and 5 grams of 24-carat gold topped with whipped cream and shavings from a La Madeline au Truffle. It is served in a goblet with a band of gold decorated with 1 carat of diamonds and served with a golden spoon diners can take home.
The dessert was created by Serendipity 3, a restaurant popular with tourists and once featured in a John Cusack movie.
The AP (on Thursday, November 8, 2007) reported the following story -
NEW YORK - This is one rich cup of haute chocolate:
A New York eatery is offering a US$25,000 dessert bulging with top-grade cocoa, edible gold and shavings of a luxury truffle. The Frrrozen Haute Chocolate was declared the most expensive dessert in the world on Wednesday by the Guinness World Records. The dessert is a frozen, slushy mix of cocoas from 14 countries, milk and 5 grams of 24-carat gold topped with whipped cream and shavings from a La Madeline au Truffle. It is served in a goblet with a band of gold decorated with 1 carat of diamonds and served with a golden spoon diners can take home.
The dessert was created by Serendipity 3, a restaurant popular with tourists and once featured in a John Cusack movie.
Worst Online-Match - Beware of the Email Trap
You've met your "match" or someone you think you click with. Well, now you've got to be very careful about what you write in your emails. Privacy or the lack thereof is a big issue in any kind of online activity. You can now get all kinds of information on potential or actual dates from sites such as Don't Date Him Girl and Don't Date Her Man. Angry dates or exes can post all sorts of damaging information about you on the web.
A bitter, um, I meant angry match.com dater posted unflattering information in the form of email exchanges between herself and a dude named John Fitzgerald.
Gawker.com has posted the entire email, labeling Fitzgerald the Worst Person in the World".
So, now that you've read the email, do you think Fitzgerald is a "douchebag"? Or is he just a normal prototype? I have had my share of nasty emails (no I haven't written any [yet]) and I look forward to many more, but I don't consider the Fitzgerald email nasty. Maybe my tolerance is just a tad higher post my date with TallDarkHandsomeLawyer. Now, he's a douchebag. I may sound bitter, but I"m not!!!
A bitter, um, I meant angry match.com dater posted unflattering information in the form of email exchanges between herself and a dude named John Fitzgerald.
Gawker.com has posted the entire email, labeling Fitzgerald the Worst Person in the World".
So, now that you've read the email, do you think Fitzgerald is a "douchebag"? Or is he just a normal prototype? I have had my share of nasty emails (no I haven't written any [yet]) and I look forward to many more, but I don't consider the Fitzgerald email nasty. Maybe my tolerance is just a tad higher post my date with TallDarkHandsomeLawyer. Now, he's a douchebag. I may sound bitter, but I"m not!!!
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Response to TTQ's question
"Is it true that e-harmony (I think) has rejected a bunch of people? I mean in the commercial they looked ok, but the ad was for chemistry.com"
I'm sure you've all seen those cheeky Chemistry.com ads showcasing "Rejected by Eharmony" stories. Well, I heard that Eharmony allegedly rejected same sex pairings because the eharmony.com is geared towards encouraging only heterosexual types of marriage. Of course, I'm not sure whether this true or not, but this is the word on the web.
Check out the washington post and wikpedia for more information on this online dating war!!! Do you think that same sex couples cannot be matched on 29 dimensions? What do you think?
I'm sure you've all seen those cheeky Chemistry.com ads showcasing "Rejected by Eharmony" stories. Well, I heard that Eharmony allegedly rejected same sex pairings because the eharmony.com is geared towards encouraging only heterosexual types of marriage. Of course, I'm not sure whether this true or not, but this is the word on the web.
Check out the washington post and wikpedia for more information on this online dating war!!! Do you think that same sex couples cannot be matched on 29 dimensions? What do you think?
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Sunday, October 21, 2007
Sassy's Third Date Teaser
Manabouttown69
Yes, that was his screen name. Obviously the name should have tipped me off, but I was going through my "needy, insecure, why doesn't anyone want me phase." [p.s. i'm out of that phase now]. We had dinner at a trendy little downtown restaurant. Good food, good drinks, good conversation. I did something I hadn't done before - headed over to his place. Real upscale condo in a trendy part of town. Fast forward to our mild "getting-to-know-you" session on his couch,
Yes, that was his screen name. Obviously the name should have tipped me off, but I was going through my "needy, insecure, why doesn't anyone want me phase." [p.s. i'm out of that phase now]. We had dinner at a trendy little downtown restaurant. Good food, good drinks, good conversation. I did something I hadn't done before - headed over to his place. Real upscale condo in a trendy part of town. Fast forward to our mild "getting-to-know-you" session on his couch,